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Super Glam Fashion Week

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"Come with me, and you'll be, in a world of pure imagination....".

Ah... the magnificence of those simple songs lyrics from my childhood came rushing forth the second I walked into Giuseppe Zanotti's showroom, in the pulsating heart of Milan. The parallels between the scene from the 1971 classic film Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory, when the door was opened into this land of flowing chocolate, edible flowers and Oompa Loompas and where I stood awestruck, was undeniable. I was venturing into a fairyland of fashion, where the shoes and sneakers had supplanted the candy and confectionary. The proverbial Magic Box had just been opened for me, where in the rarest of mystical moments, fantasy had become reality.

"We'll begin with a spin, traveling in the world of my creation. What we'll see will defy explanation."

My god, the words from the song kept coming, flowing effortlessly and wistfully from somewhere in the subconscious of my youth to this here and now moment. The magic in the air was palpable to the point where you could almost grab it with your hand. I was on the threshold of a journey. Bolstering this venture was the fact that where I standing was once the former residence of Napolean Bonaparte. Dripping chandeliers adorned the room lending not only to its 18th Century charm, but emboldening its sense of history that permeated my already enlightened senses. But this, pardon the pun, was only the window dressing. The real allure here were the works of Zanotti, whose shoes, sneakers and boots almost seemed to say hello with each passing view. I first noticed the leopard calfskin boot -- which has always been a favorite of mine. But there was something different about this year's debut -- the heel. Zanotti had wrapped the entire 2-inch heel with thin metal plates, giving the boot a more contemporary artistic design. It was the perfect amount of "right", as it brought the boot from a place of great to epic, in a rock & roll, superstar superglam type of way.

Super Glam from Cary Nokey on Vimeo.




My gaze quickly shifted upon a pair of radiant red, high top sneakers, perched in the corner of the showroom, which beckoned me like a beacon spilling its effulgence over the crowd. I had realized that this was not only a unique piece of fashion but a work of art. With its Asian gold metallic dragon design complimenting its sanguine motif, Zanotti's fantastical vision was becoming more and more apparent with each glance of this breath-taking shoe. This man was obviously well aware of the undeniable synergy between music and fashion.

Turning away I was struck by a sense of warmth, which seemed to tap me on the shoulder like an old friend saying hello. I then realized I was standing next to this Willy Wonka of the Fashion world. His gentle aura and disarming smile greeted me with a welcomeness only few people can relay. As he began too speak of his new line, Mr. Zanotti's eyes aglow and replete with wonderment, he explained how the sheer spirit of rock & roll plays a major influence on the designs of some of his new men's boots and sneakers. He referenced artists like Kurt Cobain and Janis Joplin; and excitedly intoned how he views his showroom collection as a candy store, with something for everyone. He loves how people express themselves through his creations, and he strives to give people as much of an imaginative palette as possible. On the flip side, he does opine on the banality of looking through a showroom window with lifeless mannequins and almost wooden shoe accoutrements. The words average and mundane are just not in this man's vocabulary.

But his genius lies in breathing life into this world of fashion. Much like Mr. Wonka, the laces are woven like vibrant strands of taffy, to be pulled to and fro. The high-end fabrics and materials are carefully selected, each delectable ingredients that comprise each work giving them uniqueness and luminescence.

"Want to change the world? There's nothing to it."

My admiration for this man's work goes without saying. His work, vision, and candor all dipped into a big swirling pot of Pure Imagination has made such a profound impact on me, I can still taste it as I wear it. I was going to say that I was simply gobsmacked but I think I'll add everlasting to that. Shit, I was everlasting gobsmacked. Viva La Pure Imagination, Mr.Wonka and Pure Genius, Mr Zanotti!

And now it's Fashion Week in New York --- SUPER GLAM!!!

Valentine's Day Gift Guide

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This Valentine's Day, have your Valentine falling for these unique, whimsical and romantic gifts.

Romance is in the air. Created with the finest ingredients the Aerin Fragrance collection with five distinct scents: Gardenia Rattan, Amber Musk, Lilac Path, Ikat Jasmine and my favorite for this time of year, Evening Rose. Choose one that tells your story.
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Classic with a distinctive downtown edge Illesteva glasses are designed in New York and made in Italy, how fabulous is that? Celebrity fans include Beyonce, Daniel Craig and Elton John. Join the hipsters and get a pair of glossy red shades this Valentine's day, you'll have everyone seeing red.
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Chic and stylish, just like your Valentine these one of a kind pieces from designer Reggie Stone will make a statement of love. We are swooning over this La Vie en Rose from her La Bohemienne Collection. A playful, deconstructed necklace of luxurious knotted tie-dyed silk, hand sewn beaded crystals and silk ribbons. $275.00 retail.

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I like my charms in the form of gold -- fondant that is, Georgetown Cupcake's Charm Dozen are indulgent, gorgeous and delicious, all at the same time. Thank goodness there is a dozen because it's Valentine's Day, and who's going to stop at one? Georgetown Cupcake Charm Dozen -- 6 Red Velvet with gold 'love' heart charm fondant, 3 Chocolate Squared with gold 'xo' heart charm fondant and 3 Bubblegum Pink Vanilla with gold 'xo' heart charm fondant. $29/dozen.
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A great gift for sharing and enjoying with a loved one, Veuve Clicquot Rosé Couture is a chic offering for Veuve Clicquot Rosé. Designed to celebrate haute couture, this elegant case is designed to keep a bottle of Veuve Clicquot Rosé chilled for up to two hours and is perfect for a stylish Valentine. Retailing for $69.00, Veuve Clicquot Rosé Couture is available at fine wine and liquor stores nationwide.
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Sucre' A sweet Boutique from New Orleans, is a most magical place, where chef Tariq spins sugar like none other. They offer a Sweet Macaron Collection that is handmade with love from flavors inspired by the most romantic city in the world. Red and white Macarons filled with the perfect pairing of white chocolate and raspberry mousseline make for the sweetest treat! They're my latest addiction!
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Wear your love not on your sleeve, but right smack in the front for maximum attention! How fun! C.Wonder's Je T'aime Intarsia Colorblock sweater is incredibly chic, perfect for your fashion-forward Valentine.
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Moët & Chandon Rosé Impérial is a spontaneous and radiant champagne, with bright fruitiness, a seductive palate, elegant maturity and a lively, intense bouquet of red fruits, floral nuances of rose, and a slight peppery touch. This February, find it dressed to impress in the new Black Tie Box, a chic pink isothermal box which keeps your bottle of Moët Impérial Rosé chilled for up to 2 hours, preserving the crispness and supple qualities of the bubbly, with a convenient handle for carrying. Available for $59 at ReserveBar.com.

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Light up your romance with a delightfully delicious candle, Duchess Peony from LAFCO. You can smell the blooms as if it was spring. Romantic, full and floral, it's a blend of full Camellia and Peony blossoms. Set in a rose toned blown glass container that looks undeniably chic in any room.

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Deborah Lindquist: The Winter Wedding

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By Deborah Lindquist

Under a clear blue sky on a snowy mountaintop in Aspen or in an intricately carved ice castle church in Sweden surrounded by gently falling snow, a winter wedding is something unusually spectacular.

While some of our friends in cold, snowy regions may be tired of the white stuff, there is something so truly romantic and beautiful about a fresh blanket of softly glistening crystals of snow.

Reasonably enough, a winter wedding dress should offer the bride some warmth. Here are some ideas to keep you warm while keeping your look romantic and feminine without feeling like you should just throw a parka over your shoulders.

Feathers:
Feathers are surprisingly warm. The soft feather trim on the bodice of this vintage beaded wool and organic linen wedding dress offers a bit of warmth against the skin while keeping the look romantic and feminine. Additionally the feathers will offer up some drama for your beauty shots.

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A sheer layer:
Keeping your arms covered under a fitted bustier may seem like a difficult look to pull off, but this 3-piece wedding ensemble includes a beaded sheer silk mesh long sleeved top under a vintage beaded wool bustier. Worn with a bustled organic linen skirt, it's a creative way to keep warm. The silk tee is so light, you barely know its there.

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Cover your body in cashmere:
Nothing is quite as warm and luxuriously soft as cashmere. This winter wedding dress has a mermaid shape but is made of vintage cashmere with a beaded wool bodice. Sexy and figure hugging, it's the warmest winter wedding dress you can imagine. Add a ruffled sleeve shrug and you are perfectly prepared for an ice castle wedding.

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Now for the shoes...
I say pick the warmest little wedge heeled boots you can find so your heels don't sink into the snow. Because I bet your significant other doesn't like popsicle toes.

Happy winter wedding season!

All photos courtesy of Autumn Stankay.

As one of America's most sought after environmentally conscious designers, Deborah Lindquist creates exquisite apparel out of a mix of "reincarnated" and new Earth-friendly fabrics, such as cashmere, hemp and bamboo. Lindquist's avant-garde apparel has been showcased in numerous publications including Elle, In Style, Lucky, WWD, Vibe, People, Brides and Maxim. You can also catch her one-of-a-kind pieces during episodes of Lifetime's How to Look Good Naked and Access Hollywood's Hollywood Green. She has dressed trendsetters such as Rihanna, Pink, Christina Aguilera, Jessica Simpson, Paris Hilton, Keisha Cole and Jessica Alba. Check out her press page and blog to learn more about Deborah.

Trend Alert: Go for the Gold

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This post is co-authored by Simone Forsberg

Unless you are finding yourself in sunny Southern California, we are all impatiently awaiting the return of blissful warmth and golden sunshine. Thankfully, spring is around the corner and gold is in the air! From Oscar statues to Olympic medals, gold is trending.

As we ring in the trends of this year's spring fashion, gold is catching our eyes. It brings out a certain natural regality, vivacity and self-assuredness in whoever wears it, and has a particular head-turning subtlety. Ranging in hues from subdued white to charming rose and classic yellow, gold caters to various personalities and wardrobe color schemes, yet all the while emanating a luxurious glow. In all it's versatility, gold can be classic, exotic, daring, or delicate, and whether worn from head to toe -- as seen on the ever-so-elegant Academy Award Nominee Cate Blanchett in Vogue's January 2014 issue -- or as a simple accoutrement, let gold be your go-to this season.

Interior design is also experiencing a trend towards gold this year as a contrasting offset to the blank canvas of minimalist style. This movement, adopting a renaissance-like quality in the gold embellishments of prints and textiles, infuses the home with the warmth and luminance that gold has to offer. Color is making its way back into the modern home as well, and as gold is the perfect compliment to a wide range of hues, this multi-talented shade proves itself, yet again, very versatile indeed. The staff at Elle Décor highlight this "gleaming, glittering, and totally glamorous" trend noting that "this precious color adds sparkle to any setting."

Gold is making a stately appearance in the aesthetic world, and that of fine paper is no exception. There is a particular and collective draw to gold embellishments; the subtle gleam is intriguing, tantalizing and somehow revitalizing. Traditional wedding invitations have taken a refreshing turn for the century with gold-engraved accents adding an alluring yet classic twist to one of life's most important invites. Further, wrapped in delicate gold twine and sealed in rich, gold wax creates for a stunning piece of art that invites intrigue to the wedding ceremony itself and a deep appreciation for the attention to detail. As personal stationery and calling cards reclaim their thoughtful positions in our fast-paced, digital society, something extraordinary is in need. An eye-catching yet understated gold, beveled edge implies the perfect amount of sophistication and confidence to make a memorable impression and guarantee that phone call you are after.

Gold is at the pinnacle of the metallic color scheme this season as we welcome the sunshine of spring. Be it a floor length gown, a party invitation, or a prize winning medal, gold is looking especially good lately. So, go for the gold.

An Ode to My Postpartum Body

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Before I became pregnant, someone told me, "don't have a baby, babies ruin your body."

It has been over a year since Anabel began her life. This time last year she was a microscopic speck inside of me, and we were announcing our pregnancy. Between then and now, I have gained and lost 50 pounds. Four months after her birth, and my body still carries proof of her existence.

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I have dark pools under my eyes. A valley where my belly button once was. Hips with a new amplitude that my teenage self wouldn't recognize. I have lines mapped across the mountains of stretched skin left over on my midsection. Lightning bolts on my sides proving I once was too small to contain all of the love that filled me. Lines indicating that my daughter once lived inside of me.

Do you realize the significance in that? Every limb, finger, toe... her heart, even, developed near the very place my own heart beats inside of my chest. Those mountains of skin are all I have left to prove that we were once one and not two.

How can I be ashamed of that?

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I have so much to say about seeing my grandfather's eyes embedded into the sockets, and under the brows and lashes of her father's. I see the 17-year-old boy I fell in love with, and my grandpa as a child all at once every time she looks up at me. She even wears my ears and my chin. The two very things I cursed having the most growing up. Not much makes me feel more beautiful than seeing tiny renditions of those same features on Anabel, and realizing just how special they are.

My body grew that.
Not everybody has that privilege.

Sure my belly is a bit softer nowadays, but the way it moves when I jump up and down sends my girl into fits of giggles. And yeah, my hips are hardly as narrow as they used to be, but they sure know the perfect figure-8 motion to sway her to sleep. My 21-year-old hair is even beginning to gray, but not much soothes her more than my hair between her little fingers.

I am not something flawless in the eyes of society, or even close to what I once was physically, but my perfect girl sees me for who I am.

To her, I hang the moon.

She knows my heart -- she knew it long before we met.

And she loves me for it.

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I cannot tell you how much worth and validation I feel because of that truth.

My body is only a vessel for my spirit. An incredible vessel. It is strong, well, abled and undefeated.

My body is full of life.
My body is powerful.
My body made me a mother.

If anything, I was ruined by the world before I knew her, and she made me whole again.

This post originally appeared on We Seek Joy

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Who Are the Stars of Fashion Week: Designers or Bloggers?

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Another Fashion Month kicks off this week and designers in New York are scrambling to get their Fall 2014 collections show-ready. They needn't bother. For bloggers, celebrities and sadly, even a few editors, Fashion Week is more of a time to be seen than see the collections.

Don't get me wrong, guests with coveted invites to the shows will be documenting them via pictures posted to their Instagram and Twitter accounts, but mainly to prove that they were there. In the past few seasons, show-goers have even gone as far as to take selfies...during the shows.

There is a growing consensus among the fashion crowd that the designs of Fashion Week are being overshadowed by the near hysterical self-promotion of bloggers and editors. Over the past five years a trend has emerged: Borrow clothes from PR companies and dress completely over the top to get your picture taken as much as humanly possible to generate personal publicity. If you don't have the clout to borrow, wear the loudest clothes you own. Some of these overeager street style models aren't even invitees, but Lincoln Center lurkers hanging around for a photo op.

The majority of them dress completely normally on a daily basis, but style themselves as eye-catchingly as possible for their fifteen minutes of Fashion Week fame. Nothing is too weird to wear outside the tents. The more eccentric the better. It's the equivalent of Halloween for the fashion industry, except it happens twice a year, and that's if you don't count Resort and Couture.

Despite the seemingly exclusive nature of fashion, Fashion Week photographers go nuts for anyone with a D-List speck of celebrity. You'll realize this if you've ever been to a fashion show with reality television star Brad Goreski in attendance. He's always seated in the front row and the way he's mobbed you would think Michelle Obama had made a surprise appearance.

The same goes for "street style stars," a term, which, in itself, seems like an oxymoron. Street style should be, if anything, the antithesis of star or celebrity style. Street style should be what one wears without the intention of getting photographed. It should be personal style in its purest form, what you wear to express yourself, just for the sake of expression. The opposite of the contrivance of dressing for an event. Uber-successful street style blogs like The Sartorialist started out as a very ode to this natural, genuine type of grace.

For the majority of the fashion industry, the editors, stylists and buyers who devote their careers to interpreting design for the masses, Fashion Month is indeed, an extremely hectic period when free time vanishes and work is without end. For them, going to fashion shows, despite sounding glamorous, is in fact work. Editors are crafting future fashion stories in their heads and taking notes on trends. Writers are reviewing collections before they've even had a moment to fully process what they've seen before moving on to the next show. These experts have a huge responsibility to the designers and the public to do their jobs well and in a short time frame.

I applaud these professionals who work in fashion for the love of it and don't forget that the designs are the true attraction of Fashion Week. If anyone deserves a chance to borrow clothes and dress up, it's them. I marvel at their ability to find the time to plan their Fashion Month wardrobe, especially if they are traveling to multiple cities. And I enjoy seeing what they wear, if not quite as much as seeing what my favorite designers have come up with. My favorite editors are the ones who look like themselves during Fashion Month, but better. The ones who step it up the way anyone would when going to an important meeting or interview, but wear clothes that are authentic to their aesthetic.

Inauthenticity is my main grievance with the frenzy outside of the shows. The rampant self-promotion and personal branding that is the amateurs dressed in every piece of clothing they own feels like too far of a departure from the integrity of the designs being presented. Credit should reside where credit is due, and that is with the designers who have beat the odds to be able to show in an incredibly competitive industry, not with bloggers whose main skills include navigating WordPress and the self-timers on their cameras. It pains me to think that some of them get more press than up and coming designers.

My tip for show-goers this Fashion Week is to look your best, but look like yourself. Get plenty of rest and take the chaos in stride. Smile for the cameras, or don't, but remember that it's not all about you. Most of all, take in the designs and put down your smartphone for a second to just see them. That's the point. There's nothing like watching a designer's creations float down the runway. Soak it in.

10 Things to Know About Fashion Week

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Starting this week in New York, the fashion industry begins its four-city marathon known as Fashion Month. Sure, nobody is curing cancer, but the designers, editors, models, photographers, interns, etc. work much harder and withstand more pressure than the outside world is willing or able to acknowledge.

Having several Fashion Week's under my belt, I have come to know the following ten truths:

1. There is a very fine line between street style, and looking like Becky Bloomwood.
No disrespect to Becky Bloomwood.

2. Models work harder than you think.
During Fashion Month, their hours rival that of an investment banker.

3. Publicists are people, too.
Try swearing off sleep for weeks and then keeping your patience when an another anonymous fashion student throws a fit about being in Standing.

4. The general public cannot just "get tickets" to a fashion show.
This is not a Ricky Martin concert.

5. Wearing sunglasses at a show is only acceptable for a very select few.
No offense, but if you're in the fifth row wearing your Céline Teddy's, people may think you just had laser eye surgery.

6. Assistants make the world go round.
Then after the show it's the after party... and after the party it's the... office. Until 2am.

7. Not all bloggers are "peacocks."
Some are. But many, namely Leandra Medine and Emily Weiss, are incredibly talented entrepreneurs.

8. You may think fashion is silly, but there's no escaping it unless you take a cue from Adam and Eve and forgo clothing forever.
As Miranda Priestly would say, "...it's sort of comical how you think that you've made a choice that exempts you from the fashion industry when, in fact, you're wearing the sweater that was selected for you by the people in this room. From a pile of stuff."

9. A 5-minute runway production makes it look effortless.
But really, months of blood, sweat, and tears, went into that collection.

10. Fashion is a business. Period.
For many, it is simply work. It is not a carnival (although some people hanging by the fountains in Lincoln Center look like they're about to hop on that Tilt-a-Whirl). So keep it professional, people.

5 Things You Should Never Wear in the Caribbean

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It's the night before your Caribbean vacation and you're packed and ready to roll. But wait! Before you close that carry-on, make sure your luggage isn't harboring one of these fashion criminals.

1.Sandals and socks
I truly thought that the fashion travesty of sandals worn with mid-calf and knee-high socks was a thing of the past -- or at least reserved only for middle-aged British men. Turns out I was wrong because I saw this "look" alive and well on a couple of would-be hipsters during a trip to Montego Bay last month. But trust me, travelers: Even when worn "ironically," sandals and socks are NEVER cool.

2. Beaded Braids
First, let's be clear: I'm not talking one or two plaits or cornrows or an Olsen-twin milkmaid updo. The fashion offense in question here is the head full of braids, each punctuated with a plastic bead or colorful elastic band. I know you don't want to offend the nice rotund lady at the cruise port who's offering braids for a dollar a pop. I know you think it'll be a "fun, island look" for your Caribbean vacay. I know you're thinking, "Well, they were cute on Bo Derek... " But here's the truth: She won't be offended (they're plenty more suckers on the gangplank behind you). Except for the odd unfortunate child, NO ONE in the Caribbean is walking around with a heavily beaded 'do. And no, they were never cute on Bo.

3. Bum bags
Every so often, fashion decision-makers try to convince us that the bum bag/fanny pack is a good idea. Even now, Tory Burch et al are touting "belt bags" as a cool way to tote your stuff for Spring 2014. With the plethora of cross-body bags and wristlets out there, do you really need to make your waist or hips look bigger in the name of hands-free haulage? I think not.

4. Obvious sunscreen
It's great that travelers are heeding dermatologists' advice and slicking on the sunscreen. But for the love of God, please don't be sloppy about it. If I had a dollar for every tourist if I've spotted with white streaks of sun cream caked in their hairline, on their ears, between their fingers and on their forearms, I'd be kicking back on a private island right now instead of writing for a living. Rub it in, folks; rub it in.

5. Novelty Hats
This brings me to one of my peeviest of pet peeves: the knitted cap with the faux dreadlocks attached. I've said it once and I'll say it again -- NO! These caps are un-cool, un-funny and unconscionable. Same goes for those gargantuan sombreros they sell in Mexico, and that green banana leaf topper the beach vendor is trying to convince you to buy (it'll be dry and brown in a week, trust me). If you need sun-coverage, do it in style with a Panama, fedora or jauntily tied headscarf, I beg you.

Sarah Greaves-Gabbadon is a Caribbean travel expert, award-winning travel journalist, TV personality, and black-belt shopper. Former executive editor of Caribbean Travel +Life magazine, she ventures to the beach and beyond, sharing the diverse culture, relaxed lifestyle and colorful people of the world's favorite warm-weather destination. She is also jetsetter-in-chief at JetSetSarah, where travel and shopping meet.

6 Things You Should Know About Your Clothes

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Last week, I received this comment on one of my posts:

"I want to know more about what you know. I'm such a mindful consumer when it comes to food but have never thought about how my purchasing decisions with clothes, etc could be negatively impacting the change I so emotionally pursue."


It inspired me to go back to the basics, realizing again how new the sustainable fashion movement is to most consumers. For those of you wondering why you should care about what's in your closet, here are the big six:



1.) There are chemicals on your clothes. And they're often carcinogenic. (Carcinogenic = cancer-causing). While the slow food movement is starting to catch on and consumers are becoming increasingly more conscious of what they eat, we don't yet think of clothing in the same way.



Most of us haven't caught on that the pesticides, insecticides, formaldehyde and flame-retardants on our clothes are also damaging to our health. Skin is our body's largest organ and it instinctively absorbs whatever we put on it -- clothing chemicals included.



(Next time you're browsing through the racks at your favorite big box retailer, rub your finger tips together. You'll notice a grimy film that has transferred off the clothing and onto you.)



2.) There are 27 to 30 million slaves in the world today. Yes, slaves.



Have you ever wondered how companies like Zara and Forever 21 can sell t-shirts for five dollars?



There are people in countries such as Uzbekistan, Cambodia, Bangladesh and India who are forced to work against their will. Whether they're picking cotton or tanning leather, they aren't being paid to make your clothing. They are literally bound to a life of enslavement with very little hope of getting out.



Factory workers who are being paid are probably who you would think of as "sweatshop" workers and are most likely earning less than a living wage -- that means they can't afford to feed or shelter themselves, let alone their families. In 2012, a Swedish broadcaster reported that workers in Cambodia were being paid so little they had to borrow money for food.



3.) Big retailers are a big problem.



Our bargain shopping, big sale seeking, cheap consumer mentality is directly related to the people making our clothing. Because we expect to be able to buy a shirt for less than 20 bucks, retailers are forced to find ways to lower costs and compete in a highly-saturated market. This usually requires cutting corners in manufacturing overseas.



In November, H&M made a public statement saying it plans to deliver a "living wage" to more than 850,000 textile workers by 2018. While it sounds like a noble gesture, it raises the question of why the giant retailer wasn't paying its workers fairly in the first place. In the past, H&M has been accused of promoting poverty pay, unsafe working environments and malnutrition.



H&M is not alone -- Forever 21, Inditex (the parent company of Zara), GAP, JC Penney, and many more, are major players in human rights and labor issues around the world.



4.) Our old clothes (and disposable behavior) are ruining Africa's economy.



Ready to drop off a big pile of donations at your local Goodwill? While the reselling of second-hand clothes is ethically sound, it's the massive amounts of donations that cause a problem. Goodwill, Salvation Army, and the like, receive more clothing donations than they could ever resell. So what happens to the excess?



According to an op-ed in The Business of Fashion, "The majority of donated clothing is sold to second-hand clothing merchants, who sort garments, then bundle them in bales for resale, usually outside the country in which the clothing was originally donated."



In Sub-Saharan Africa, where one-third of all globally donated clothes are sold, the used clothing business is undermining Africa's own textiles and manufacturing industry. Even more, "dumping" our unwanted clothing into countries on the other side of the world gives us an unrealistic sense of security that we can continue to consume and throw away at unsustainable rates.



5.) It takes decades for your clothing to decompose in a landfill.



The fast fashion industry has turned four regular seasons into 52 "microseasons" to push new trends and encourage rapid consumption. Retailers make it easy for shoppers to buy a cheap dress, wear it once, and never wear it again. We don't think about where those clothes go after we're done with them.



The average American throws away 68 pounds of clothing per year. Nylon, rayon, polyester and other synthetic materials are essentially plastics that will most likely be around for far longer than you will. At the rate consumer waste is piling up, it doesn't look good for the future of the planet.



6.) It's not helpless.



Consumers have the purchasing power. We all have the ability to change the industry by choosing which companies deserve our dollars. It comes down to educating yourself and adjusting your lifestyle in a way that doesn't require excessive consumption of disposable clothing.



Education can be as simple as following a few ethical fashion blogs on Facebook. You'll learn something throughout the day just from reading the headlines. (A few of my favorites are: Ecouterre, EcoSalon & Ethical Fashion Forum.)



What more can you do? I'll follow up with a solution-and-action-based post next week. (Hint: it doesn't require buying expensive, organic cotton. In fact, you'll probably save money.)



Shannon Whitehead is a sustainable apparel consultant, writer, and co-founder of {r}evolution apparel. Learn more about her work at www.shannonwhitehead.com.

Lace, Leather and All Things Love

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Valentine's Day is just around the corner which means it's time for pink sprinkled cupcakes, delicate doily valentines and pastel colored candy hearts. It also means it's time for the inevitable question, "What am I going to wear?!" Whether you're headed to a romantic candlelit dinner with your love, or have a wild night out with your closest single girlfriends planned, Shoptiques.com has something for you this year that you are bound to love!

For those lucky ladies that have intimate dinner plans with their significant other, it is all about the blush tone shades and feminine details! This Belted Blush Sheath Dress with black lace trim detail is the perfect piece for an elegant evening out. Pair it with a classic pair of Patent Leather Pumps and a Ladylike Structured Handbag for a chic and polished look!

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If you happen to be single this year, don't fret because Valentine's Day falls on a Friday, which means pulling on your favorite leather leggings, stepping into your tallest heels and hitting the town with your girls! Right now we're obsessed with all things leather, including these badass Vegan Leather Ponte Leggings. I love the idea of pairing them with a "rock and roller" vibe Edgy Tank with cutout shoulders and a pair of Firey Pumps. Tie the whole look together with a sleek ponytail, cherry red lip and your posse of fearless friends who love you all year long.

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Now if a night out isn't really your thing then grab some dark chocolates, a bottle of red wine and slip into some of our stunning silk and cashmere pieces for a night in! Whether you're planning on some relaxing time alone, or are expecting company, this Lace Trimmed Slip Chemise is the perfect piece to lounge around in. Toss over it our luxurious Lavender Cashmere Robe that is surely the softest thing we have ever felt! Last but not least, make sure to light a heavenly scented candle like our After Midnight Candle that will help set the mood.

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Valentine's Day is not only a reason to buy a new outfit but a great reason to celebrate all types of love in your life. Love your family, love your friends, love your love, love your new shoes, but most importantly remember to love yourself!

-Xoxo

Words From a Father to His Daughter (From the Makeup Aisle)

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Dear Little One,

As I write this, I'm sitting in the makeup aisle of our local Target store. A friend recently texted me from a different makeup aisle and told me it felt like one of the most oppressive places in the world. I wanted to find out what he meant. And now that I'm sitting here, I'm beginning to agree with him. Words have power, and the words on display in this aisle have a deep power. Words and phrases like:

Affordably gorgeous,

Infallible,

Flawless finish,

Brilliant strength,

Liquid power,

Go nude,

Age-defying,

Instant age rewind,

Choose your dream,

Nearly naked, and

Natural beauty.

When you have a daughter, you start to realize she's just as strong as everyone else in the house -- a force to be reckoned with, a soul on fire with the same life and gifts and passions as any man. But sitting in this store aisle, you also begin to realize most people won't see her that way. They'll see her as a pretty face and a body to enjoy. And they'll tell her she has to look a certain way to have any worth or influence.

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But words do have power and maybe, just maybe, the words of a father can begin to compete with the words of the world. Maybe a father's words can deliver his daughter through this gauntlet of institutionalized shame and into a deep, unshakeable sense of her own worthiness and beauty.

A father's words aren't different words, but they are words with a radically different meaning:

Brilliant strength. May your strength be not in your fingernails but in your heart. May you discern in your center who you are, and then may you fearfully but tenaciously live it out in the world.

Choose your dream. But not from a department store shelf. Find the still-quiet place within you. A real dream has been planted there. Discover what you want to do in the world. And when you have chosen, may you faithfully pursue it, with integrity and with hope.

Naked. The world wants you to take your clothes off. Please keep them on. But take your gloves off. Pull no punches. Say what is in your heart. Be vulnerable. Embrace risk. Love a world that barely knows what it means to love itself. Do so nakedly. Openly. With abandon.

Infallible. May you be constantly, infallibly aware that infallibility doesn't exist. It's an illusion created by people interested in your wallet. If you choose to seek perfection, may it be in an infallible grace -- for yourself, and for everyone around you.

Age-defying. Your skin will wrinkle and your youth will fade, but your soul is ageless. It will always know how to play and how to enjoy and how to revel in this one-chance life. May you always defiantly resist the aging of your spirit.

Flawless finish. Your finish has nothing to do with how your face looks today and everything to do with how your life looks on your last day. May your years be a preparation for that day. May you be aged by grace, may you grow in wisdom and may your love become big enough to embrace all people. May your flawless finish be a peaceful embrace of the end and the unknown that follows, and may it thus be a gift to everyone who cherishes you.

Little One, you love everything pink and frilly and I will surely understand if someday makeup is important to you. But I pray three words will remain more important to you -- the last three words you say every night, when I ask the question: "Where are you the most beautiful?" Three words so bright no concealer can cover them.

Where are you the most beautiful?

On the inside.

From my heart to yours,

Daddy

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Like the last letter I wrote to my daughter, I wrote this first for her and the day I'll eventually read it to her. But I also wrote it for every woman who needs to hear the words of a father. Women, no one else can define your beauty for you. But they'll try.

My daughter is 4 years old now. If her awakening to the makeup aisle comes at the typical age, I figure we have about five years to radically alter the arc of history and the subjugation-by-image of the female gender. We've got a lot of work to do. And it begins in the heart of each and every woman.


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This post originally appeared on DrKellyFlanagan.com

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Princess Shape-Up at Disney

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"Change happens when the pain of not changing becomes greater than the change itself, that's when change happens." -- original author unknown

Thanks to a gutsy, brave, and curvy teen, Disney has 11,000 votes (and counting) change.org for a more realistic princess to add to their line of royalty.

Summoning the support from like minded moms, aunts, sisters, fathers, brothers, uncles, friends, and girls her own age, Jewel Moore, author of the petition, has touched a lightening rod in our society involving the land where dreams are made of.

Not long ago, moms around the world lead the charge to set BRAVE's Merida, Disney's wildly popular unconventional princess, free from being transformed and streamlined into what I call, the DPBF (Disney Princess Beauty Formula). The throngs said, "NO!", "leave her alone!" and thankfully, Disney took note and left the flaming haired unkempt gutsy-gal princess alone. People cheered. We got our happy ending.

I applaud Jewel's recently bold stand to have a princess more reflective of her, her friends and millions of other girls across America. Her a statement sparked interest from both sides of the issue, turning the nation's press once again to the beauty debate.

Question to ponder: Why do we all feel we need to fit through the eye of a needle to be considered beautiful and feel banished or rejected if we can't?

What concerns me the most are all the young viewers (regardless of their size) who have repeated exposure to princess themed Disney movies, without a variety of beauty in ethnicity and size represented. Yes, BRAVE was and will always be near and dear to our hearts, however all but one princess continues to reflect a very narrow, unrealistic and limited ideal of beauty. How does that impact a young girl's developing mind and body image, if their own reflection is vastly different to that being repeatedly reflected at them?

Question to ponder: Are our children being entertained or is there a subliminal lesson being taught throughout their entertainment vehicles that's not as empowering as you'd hoped, and possibly harmful to their self esteem?

Instead of rubbing salt into the wounds of those buying tickets, could the entertainment industry be inflicting more harm by not knowing who their audience is? With all the market research done, pleading ignorance is no longer acceptable. It's time that the entertainment and movie industries -- anyone who creates and distributes content to a younger demographic --brush up on what their viewer's lives are like and what issues they need to be aware of while they're developing a project. It's a different world out there for a kid, where life isn't always cool or certainly dreamlike.

Eating disorders and obesity are at epidemic proportions and raging right before our eyes. Imagine that, at two ends of the spectrum, kids are not feeling good about themselves and considering pretty heavy alternatives. Dig in and walk in their shoes for a moment. It's not a pretty picture. It can be down right horrible when you add bullying into the mix for any little infraction as a pre-teen and teenager these days. When these kids go to the movies, they look to escape like everyone else, to get a break from it all, to be entertained. But even there, the harshness of not fitting in and sadly being the last laugh in a story line relentlessly continues. For youth today, a more personal war is being waged and they really need us to listen, care and do something about it.

Studies show 9 in 10 girls say the fashion industry (89 percent) and/or the media (88 percent) place a lot of pressure on teenage girls to be thin and kids are now being encouraged to be on the look out for poor media representation for kids and people.

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO MAY NOT KNOW:



There are 3 God given basic body types
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Ecotmorphs (angular- more thin),

Mesomorph (muscular) and

Enodomorph (more rounded)


Question to ponder: Why is beauty only seen through one (ectomorphic) lens, often times with disproportionate waist to hip and over blown bust measurements? Why not represent princesses via the three types shown above in their beautiful, healthy, strong and fit forms?

Inserting an obese princess is not what's being asked for, but a larger, healthier more realistic, normalized beauty version of what currently exists. Then together, let them reign!

I feel strongly it's up to us to help our children as much as we can to see themselves as acceptable, cool, unique and righteous in all the ways they are. (Just in case you're wondering, I'm not a fan of every child getting a medal on race day). This clearly is different and game changing for a young person's life, starting early on with the messages they receive from movies and the entertainment they absorb. It's our responsibility to help them choose wisely the right messages that build them up rather than tear them down or movies that never include them or their friends.

From the ignorant to the compassionate and the well informed, Jewel has touched a deep rooted nerve that runs throughout our culture regarding beauty and who gets to play in the kingdom. Regardless, change is in the air and women, girls and concerned men are effectively using their social media outlets to air their opinions. Clearly a call for change is here and to be taken seriously, if not who knows what can happen? The incredible power of a group of women (and one gutsy, emboldened girl) should not be scoffed at or ignored.


Sources:
People.com
National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)
Girl Scouts of the USA/Girl Scout Research Institute: Girl Scouts of the USA and The Dove Self-Esteem Fund, 2010

Happy Anniversary, LA. I'm Still Kind of Confused

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This week marks two years in Los Angeles. I made this move with zero knowledge of Los Angeles, of California, or really anything on the west coast. I am totally in love with LA, but, let's be real. There are a few things that will never make sense to me about this city:

From 5-8:20 a.m., there are less than 5 people in any Starbucks in the city. From 8:21 a.m. - 7 .p.m, every one of these Starbucks is packed. People bring in entire computers, everything they need to paint (including an easel, for real), and have 10-person meetings as though it's nothing.

Every person, in some capacity is "in the industry" or so they claim. (This could absolutely be true, being that I have no idea what this actually means).

You can do any kind of workout that you want, except a normal workout. Spinning? Sure, but you're also going to lift weights for a few minutes in the middle of the class. Yoga? Totally, let's just do it outside where there is live music playing. A barre class? Of course, just decide if you want cardio barre, barre 3, figure 4, physique 57, the barre method or pure barre.

Celebrities are everywhere. The grocery store, the gym, Starbucks... everywhere. But you're supposed to act like it's no big deal. HELLO! I don't think I slept for like ten days after taking a class with Lady Gaga.

Los Angeles is really a million different cities (or 88), and all of them are vastly different. For example:

  • Santa Monica: Tourists and the nicest people in all of LA

  • Venice: Everyone is high

  • West Hollywood: The most beautiful gay men you will ever see

  • Silver Lake: Hipsters everywhere

  • Los Feliz: So many hot Europeans. Like Robert Pattinson.

  • Beverly Hills: Botox and fake boobs

  • Studio City: "The Valley" which apparently isn't a cool place, even though it sounds like it would be

  • Calabasas: Kardashians and Biebers

  • Brentwood: Stay-at-home moms. And Reese Witherspoon.

  • Malibu: Heaven



People spend a lot of time at hotels, without ever checking in. They go to have meals, for happy hour, for parties, to lay by the pool or to use the salon and spa.

The only time it's acceptable to be in public not dressed up is if you're going to or coming from a work out. And even then, what you're wearing is Lululemon or branded by an expensive gym. I went to the grocery store in leggings and a sweatshirt and was told "you're not in Kentucky anymore."

Highways are referenced as "The (insert number)." Directions are actually given as: "Take the 405 to the 5 to the 10 to the 101, and get off at the canyon."

If you live on the east side, you hate the west side. If you live on the west side, you hate the east side. (This is how I am reminded that I am not from LA. I will travel anywhere if there is something there I want to do. A spin class in Santa Monica? Sure! I don't care if it takes 30 minutes to get there. Drinks in Malibu? Let's do it! See you there in an hour, I hope).

If it's "cold" (see: below 60 degrees) people cannot handle it. They'll cancel plans, turn on the heat, and refuse to go outside for anything. The best part of cold fronts? The news casts, as noted by Jimmy Kimmel.

5 Ways to Wear Pastels in Winter

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There's no reason to shy away from light-colored pieces during the winter months! In cool, winter silhouettes perfect for layering and sharp new shades, pastels are a fresh alternative for frosty temps. These chic and feminine updates make a sweet statement for any occasion! Whether you choose a blush pink or an icy mint, these candy-colored pieces are absolutely irresistible.


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A high-necked, long-sleeved blouse is the perfect complement to halliedaily's blush skirt and matching clutch.

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This all black outfit on moiology is instantly elevated with an oversized pastel coat.


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A pastel sweater is winterized when it's paired with a statement-making coat and basics like loveyoumeanit.


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Double up! Try a pastel clutch and matching sweater for a subtle pastel pop like this look from nausheenshah.


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Pastel pants lend just the right amount of color to an oversized coat and sweater on tovogueorbust.

Successful Underwear Kickstarter Campaigns

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2013 seemed to be the Year of Kickstarter. Everyone from James Franco to the cast of Veronica Mars took to crowdsourcing sites to help fund the various projects they were working on; and, underwear brands were no exception. Websites such as Kickstarter are great platforms for new brands to gain the support they need to launch, as well as for already established brands to continue their mission. Over at The Underwear Expert, we've rounded up some of the most successful underwear Kickstarter campaigns. Check them out.

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1. Garcon Model
To create their highly anticipated second collection, Canadian brand Garcon Model sought fan input on their favorite color combinations. Fans voted on various options in their three cuts, and the top twenty picks will be manufactured and sold. With an initial pledge of $10,000 Garcon Model gave their customers the opportunity to be part of the creative process and get involved with the products they'd be purchasing.

2. UFM
UFM, or Underwear For Men, is not only one of the newest brands on the market, but they've also created something we've never seen before: the conduit system. This patent-pending underwear technology has a "drawstring" strategically placed inside the underwear along the stitch line. That's right--adjustable, form-fitting underwear.

3. Speakeasy Briefs
Based in San Francisco, these boxer briefs come with a secret zipper pocket. Their innovative design allows for a number of personal items to be carried below your belt--such as phones, wallets, keys, and (with a name like that) flasks. Fashion and function at its best.

4. BR4SS
The BR4SS lifestyle is all about confidence and attitude. Founder Travis Siflinger says about the brand: "If you're trying to land a [skate] trick, pull that lady's number at the bar, or going after your dreams, you need brass balls to make that happen. And your underwear is the foundation of your entire day." We can't help but agree.

For more successful Kickstarter underwear campaigns, and to watch the campaign videos, head on over to The Underwear Expert.

The Underwear Expert is the ultimate resource for 200+ men's underwear brands. Visit us for the latest men's underwear trends and more. Like us on Facebook.

Weekly Roundup of eBay Vintage Jewelry Finds

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No time to page through thousands of eBay listings? Then just sneak a peek at my weekly eBay Roundup of Vintage Jewelry Finds.

This eclectic mix of designer and non-designer vintage jewelry caught my discerning eye because of its uniqueness, contemporary feel and highly collectible nature. And they make great holiday gifts!

As always, buyer beware. Be sure to read the listings closely and contact the sellers with any questions.

This week's Roundup
includes items by Givenchy, Chanel, Lanvin, Margot de Taxco, Vendome and Seguso. Be sure not to miss the Rebajes modernist bracelet, the Cartier jeweled bee bracelet, the Tiffany amethyst bracelet and the Victorian seed pearl charm pendant.

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PLEASE NOTE that Zuburbia does not endorse the use of fur, feathers, leather or animal skins in fashion. Any of these selections are offered only as more thoughtful and eco-friendly alternatives for contemporary fashionistas who have not yet eliminated animal products from their wardrobes or for collectors who are seeking to preserve these items.

7 Places to Eat, Drink, and Avoid the Cold During New York Fashion Week

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Evidently, the Polar Vortex wears Prada.

The world's top designers, editors, stylists, PR firms, and aspiring fashionistas planned every last detail of New York Fashion Week months in advance. Then detail upon detail fell apart when the first snowflake landed on Lincoln Center. Cancelled flights? Black ice? Blizzards? The Polar Vortex probably pushed out stilettos from this week's lookbook (were they even a contender?). There will be fewer "woman on the street" images of style icons popping in and out of shows with famous faces and labels exposed for cameras. Those that are published will surely be blurry from the shivering.

Of course, the shows will go on, but plan on sticking close and comfortable on the black-icy streets surrounding Lincoln Center. Avoid trips for downtown dinners and forget about popping into little SoHo cafés unless you like the subway in couture. Scoring a round-trip cab will be, in a word, impossible.

Here is the good news: there are plenty of options to unearth in the immediate surrounding area. While others flock to the standards, here are some suggestions off the Time Warner Center's beaten path. These are smart, overlooked, and highly fashionable dining alternatives:

For a breakfast pastry or afternoon pick-me-up: Tiny little Pain d'Epice (formerly Soutine Bakery) is ready with impossibly beautiful little cakes and flaky pain au chocolat that you'll burn off during the three-block walk back to 66th.

For cocktails with a view: Head to Per Se Lounge at 5:30. No earlier, no later. This is when the lounge opens and the velvet couch facing a picture-window over Columbus Circle is sure to be free. No reservations can be made in the lounge, so if you arrive at 5:45, someone will have probably beaten you to it -- though the rest of the lounge is lovely and the staff is unparalleled. And if you feel peckish, indulge in a course or two from the same menu that is served in the dining room.

For a glass of wine or small plate: Try Bin 71. Their old- and new-world wines are a refreshing departure from other ho-hum lists. Start your night with a sparkling Austrian rose or go with a food-friendly Spanish Albarino or French Gigondas to accompany their small plates.

For a simpler, quieter dinner: Everyone knows Jean-Georges, the Michelin-starred icon that one books well in advance, but ever heard of Nougatine? It's a lovely little café, quiet and stylish, tucked into the same Trump Tower but at fraction of the price. The lobster-burger is killer.

For a big table with less-than-horrifying wait: Try PJ Clarkes. It's what Don Draper would do. There may be a wait at peek times, but this enormous space expands and winds through floors and rooms and nooks that lesser drinkers would miss. P.S.: there is a second bar tucked into the back of the basement.

For hearty steak frites or cassoulet: Café Luxembourg is as much of a NYC institution as the area knows. Sit at the shiny stainless bar for the best martini this neighborhood has ever shaken. Chose a table with fingers crossed and you just might end up in a banquette next to Lauren Michaels and Tina Fey. (That happened last week!)

For all those assistants trying to grab a bite whenever they can: Epicerie Boulud. This place is bound to be outrageously crowded at mealtimes, but they're usually open from 7-11, and chances are you're not going to have time for a sit-down meal, anyway.



Christina Loccke is a freelance writer, former Upper West Sider, and media consultant to cooper & ella.

Find out more from her blog: Sexy Mother Foodie.

I Am Surrounded By Sexy, Naked Women

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My husband opened his new headphones. "Check it out!" he said happily, gesturing at them.

I peered into the box. There they were, and directly below them was a glossy photo of a naked woman, wearing the same headphones.

He followed my gaze. "Is she totally naked?" he said, only a little surprised.

"Yup," I said.

"Is that a nipple?"

"No, but almost."

"Phew," he said, grinning. "Wouldn't want to see a nipple or anything."

"Awesome," I said.

"Now I REALLY want to wear these," he said, teasing me. "Naked ladies LOVE these headphones."

"Yeah, yeah," I said. "But seriously? I mean, seriously?"

"Seriously," he said.

We got off the subway, my six-month-old daughter on my husband in the frontpack. It was the weekend, life was good, the city was muddy and cheerful and the cold felt like the right complement to hot chocolate and wool. I glanced up, waiting to cross the street, and there, covering the side of a building, was a butt.

A mostly naked, young woman's butt, the cheeks round and glowing and tanned. The panties being advertised were a blushing pink afterthought.

"Seriously?" I said.

My husband, Bear, looked up. "Nice underwear," he said. "Looks like a great product!"

I rolled my eyes and pointed at the baby girl on his chest. "See that?" I said. "She's going to see that." I pointed at the giant butt.

He looked more serious.

I keep telling myself that it's not that big of a deal. I don't want to be offended. Offended people are too serious. They get picky. They waste their time. They are distracted by things that don't have to matter.

And at the same time, I can't shake it. This feeling that something isn't right. I'm not even looking for naked women and I'm seeing them everywhere. I can't avoid them if I try.

I can't shake the feeling that there doesn't have to be a naked woman in the headphones' box. It isn't necessary at all. It tilts in the direction of insanity. Why does she need to be naked to wear headphones?

I don't want to say this out loud. I think it's uncool. It's a rant. No one cares.

I don't even really want to say it to Bear.

I feel a little lonely, noticing the naked butts of New York's advertising.

I feel strangely excluded from the world of consumerism. I can't be who these ads are for. And yet, the literature disagrees. It says: HA! You would think they're for men, because of all the sexy naked women. But no! That's the trick! They're secretly for YOU!

HA! says the literature, it's actually women who buy things that are displayed on the seductive lithe bodies of other women. It's aspirational, it's compulsive, it's some social psych thing that normal people can't fully understand, but we keep responding to anyway. All of these campaigns are tested a million times first. There's a million hours of market research here. And all of the market research agrees: Sexy naked women are the way to go, for everything!

So these ads are for me, then. That's what the research says. Then why do I feel disturbed and put-off? I must be malfunctioning. It's me. Something's off-kilter. I have to figure out how to shake it back into obedience, into obliviousness, into the cool of not caring. I have to learn to be a better liberal -- I sense that being a good liberal means embracing all of the nakedness. It's just bodies! Bodies are beautiful! Don't be a prude about it!

I think I'm supposed to ignore the fact that they are almost always the same bodies. That they are so much always the same bodies that they seem to implicitly ban the contemplation of other naked bodies. I think I'm supposed to ignore that they're almost always young women, and that they are so sexualized that they seem to implicitly instruct that young women are for sex and only for sex.

Maybe my daughter will be more normal. Maybe she'll just buy the underwear and move on with her day.

Only, I can't help but think I don't want that for her either, even though it sounds more emotionally efficient (although probably a waste of money).

On our way to the baby's six-month doctor's appointment, crossing near the park on a snowy sidewalk, I am confronted with a bus stop advertisement for "European" waxing services. A woman's long, bare legs stroll along beneath a gleaming, lean torso. The waxing was thorough, you can see, because only a faint slip of her vagina is covered with cloth. Again, she is headless.

I look at Bear. He looks at me.

"How am I supposed to raise a daughter?" I ask him.

He shrugs, obviously not wanting to think about it. She is only six months old. She is deliciously fat -- right now, everyone thinks it's perfect.

I try to imagine myself walking in this city with my older daughter. Maybe she's 10? Who the hell can imagine that far ahead? I try.

I see that she's looking at the huge naked butt.

"Isn't that ridiculous?" I say. "What a stupid ad, right?"

We laugh a little. We agree. It's very, very stupid. We go on with our day. At least she knows: this isn't just normal. It's not creatively liberated, either. It's listing towards insanity. It's laughably, seriously absurd. It may be right in front of us but we know there's something wrong.


A version of this piece appeared on Kate's blog, Eat the Damn Cake

Huffington Magazine This Week: Left in the Dust

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In this week's issue, Lynne Peeples travels to the Celilo Indian Village in Oregon, where the push for a coal-export superhighway is a growing concern for the local Native American community.

The proposed expansion of coal exports is part of a much larger international narrative: While coal use has dropped domestically as natural gas and renewable energy have become more commonplace, fast-growing economies in China and India share a demand for coal that the U.S. can supply.

"If government agencies grant approval to three export terminals proposed for Oregon and Washington, up to 100 million metric tons of coal per year could soon be shuttled in open rail cars from mines in the Powder River Basin of Wyoming and Montana, along the shores of the Columbia River and the Puget Sound, and through ranches and reservations like this one," Lynne writes. "The coal would then be loaded onto ships destined for Asia's proliferating fleet of coal-fired power plants."

The affected tribes are worried about toxic coal dust rising off passing trains, which could potentially poison local waterways and contaminate a crucial resource -- salmon.

But the debate isn't just about environmental effects. What these tribes see as a major problem, others view as a necessity for survival. "We rely on coal just as they rely on salmon," CJ Stewart, senator of the Crow Nation tribe, tells Lynne. "All tribes share one common enemy, and that enemy is poverty."

Elsewhere in the issue, Rebecca Adams speaks to skincare guru Linda Rodin, who at 65 is beginning to book gigs as a model, including a recent ad campaign for Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen's high-end fashion line, The Row. "It's funny to think that people want to take my photograph -- why didn't they want to take it when I had no wrinkles?" Rodin jokes.

Rodin has a refreshing attitude toward aging -- she's embraced her full head of stunning white hair (which went gray in her mid-30s), and has never considered plastic surgery. "Aren't we curious to see how we'd grow up?" she says.

In our Voices section, HuffPost Los Angeles editor Sasha Bronner writes a moving essay about her experience at a five-day silent meditation retreat in Big Sur, Calif.

"The act of exaggerated silence filled me with the purest sense of calm I have ever felt," Sasha writes. "Talking and laughing and reading and music still make me feel alive. But so does silence."

Finally, as part of our continued focus on the Third Metric, we look at the many health risks you're taking when you deprive your body of sleep.

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This story appears in Issue 87 of our weekly iPad magazine, Huffington, available Friday, Feb. 7 in the iTunes App store.

Of Genius, Cable Cars and Duck Shoes

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Birthdays do what birthdays must, giving rise to repetitive thoughts. Gertrude Stein's birthday has just come around again on February 3rd. Born in 1874, she was one year younger than the first San Francisco cable car, "a form of transportation that would become as inseparably associated with its city as gondolas are with Venice." (Gary Kamiya) Who would have thought that cable cars are also inseparable from Gertrude Stein?

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Her father's business with the San Francisco Railroad Omnibus Cable Cars allowed Stein to pursue her calling as a genius: "It takes a lot of time to be a genius, you have to sit around so much doing nothing, really doing nothing." (Everybody's Autobiography). She also said, "Why do something if it can be done."

Gertrude Stein and cable cars remind me that another genius invented the Parisian omnibus: philosopher and mathematician Blaise Pascal. Pascal would have agreed with Stein: "Most troubles of the world would be solved if we were able to sit quietly in a room for an hour a day." (A new book by local author Thomas Fuller, Monsieur Ambivalence: A Post-Modern Fable," reveals how reading Pascal can change your life.)

Which brings me to the question, why choose to be a genius in Paris? "...Paris was the place that suited those of us that were to create the twentieth century art and literature, naturally enough," says Stein in Paris France. "Logic and fashion are the reason why French people are exciting and peaceful. Logic and fashion." Would Pascal have anything to say about fashion? Of course he would, being French: "If Cleopatra's nose had been shorter," Pascal said, "the whole face of the world would have been changed." Gertrude Stein would be smiling, thinking how many books could be (and would be) written with the title, Cleopatra's Nose.

"There is no pulse so sure of the state of a nation," Stein said, "as its characteristic art product which has nothing to do with its material life. And so when hats in Paris are lovely and French and everywhere then France is alright."

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What would Gertrude Stein say about the state of the nation today, right here, in her fatherland, I wonder, if she could catch sight of women's shoes. Seeing this characteristic art product everywhere, would she say this is logical and America is alright? There was a time when Stein could be a genius in duck shoes.

Today?

Today she might point out that another philosopher, George Santayana, her contemporary, had already put his finger on that one: ""Fashion is something barbarous, for it produces innovation without reason and imitation without benefit."

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