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I hate to criticize Lammily -- the new "normal" looking doll for little girls -- as challenging the all-mighty Barbie and her size negative-four standards is a commendable act.

That said... I'm about to criticize Lammily.

The doll's much-heralded creator, Nickolay Lamm, has just unveiled "Lammily Marks," a collection of 38 reusable stickers that can be used to customize a more "regular"-looking doll; options include cellulite, stretch marks, freckles, acne, glasses, moles, a temporary tattoo, a cast and scars. The idea behind the sticker pack is simple, and easy to superficially appreciate: Women have flaws! Let's acknowledge them and help little girls find beauty in the imperfections!

But here's the rub: Packaging such features only works to enforce their status as imperfections... and controllable ones at that. Want to get rid of ugly cellulite? Peel it off! Don't want a doll with stretch marks? Don't stick them on in the first place! Little girls are already taught that they can and should manage how "perfect" their body is, and these stickers only work to enforce that dangerous and false message. If the intent was to show that average bodies have things like freckles and scars and stretch marks, why not build those features into the fundamental design of the dolls?

The bigger issue, though, is Lammily herself, a doll that -- despite being peddled as normalized and body-positive -- ultimately ascribes to a very narrow definition of beauty. Lamm claims he modeled his doll after the average proportions of a 19-year-old... yet those proportions appear to be suspiciously thin.

If this doll were real, she would fit right into the pages of Cosmo, or on a Fashion Week catwalk. This is not a "normal" doll; this is a skinny doll that's not quite as skinny as Barbie. Sticking a scar sticker on her sexy midriff as a way to make her seem even more "normal" is an offensive and insincere stab at body positivity that hasn't been earned.

In fact, it's Lammily's very mission to serve as a more realistic doll that is its greatest fault. At least with Barbie, there's a cultural understanding that she has an unrealistic body. By marketing Lammily as an "average" doll, it becomes all too easy for girls to assume they must really have a problem if they don't look like her.

And Lammily's fat-starved body assures that many girls will feel just that.

It's also worth noting, of course, that Lammily shares Barbie's lily whiteness. To be fair, there are plans in 2015 to introduce more diversity. But the fact remains that the company's flagship doll is a skinny white girl. This makes her, essentially, the exact same as Barbie -- and a few stickers can only go so far to obfuscate this truth.

This story first appeared at Ravishly.com, a community for women that strives to foster a dialogue between disparate voices and experiences.

In the words of Yohji Yamamoto, "Black is modest and arrogant at the same time. Black is lazy and easy -- but mysterious. But above all black says this: "I don't bother you -- don't bother me.""

Not long after I moved to New York three years ago, a young gentleman stopped me on the platform at the Wall Street stop on the 5 train. "Miss," he said, timidly. "Could you please tell me where the nearest Goth club is?" I looked up, quizzically, from beneath my mop of unruly blonde hair. I hesitated before bursting into laughter. He was serious. Perplexed as I assured him I was not a Goth, he gave me and my patent black Doc Marten's (OK, OK I get it...) the once-over before retreating. I stepped onto the train and headed to my internship writing for a fashion magazine. He stood there, bemused.

On any given day, I can be found swathed in head-to-toe black. It's sharp, it's chic and it's powerful. The only color I consistently wear is red, on my lips (MAC Lady Danger, to be precise). I feel entirely out of place in bright colors, verging on excess; like a lightbulb attracting every gnat in town. Black, on the other hand, allows one to be fully absorbed into anonymity, especially while living in one of the largest, most extroverted cities in the world. Defined as "the absence of light," black allows me to find equilibrium paired with my bright disposition and bleached white hair, like Yin and Yang.

Over the years, my penchant for the color back has dubbed me all the nicknames: Elvira, Wednesday, Morticia, Casper, Rosemary Cullen, Sarah Sanderson (my abnormally fair skin admittedly does nothing to help my case here). I was recruited to play a small role in True Blood, and have been referred to as "Little Stevie [Nicks]" (my muse, and arguably the most flattering of the aforementioned). But unlike Nicks, who ditched her all-black ensembles for two years to combat those rumors of witchcraft, I won't be abandoning my monochromatic uniform anytime soon, no matter how many brooms I am accused of riding through the skies of Manhattan.

I am completely addicted to black. Something about it, for me, is so positively delicious. Certain tastemakers will eschew my choice to wear a head-to-toe black look, frown upon it as being boring, unoriginal, lazy. To each their own, I say. I wouldn't have it any other way. Style is about self-expression, is it not?

I was not always this way, though, as I was raised in a somewhat waspy family. But growing up Roman Catholic, I was always very fascinated by the black garments worn by the priests and nuns. My studies in Italy as a teen quickly replaced my rainbow of Lacoste polo shirts, seersucker shorts and ribbon belts with black turtlenecks, black capes and fine leather goods in -- you guessed it -- black. I was trying to avoid having my cover as a foreigner immediately blown, so I quickly learned to dress the part. It worked -- nobody crossed me. (Presumably out of sheer terror that I would stomp my last-season Prada shoes on them. Fair enough.) It was at this time in my life that I fully realized the magnitude of one's sense of dress; how it can speak louder than words, or not say anything at all.

Black, somehow, allows me to do both at once. As an animated, optimistic, dry-humored person who is simultaneously and very quickly exhausted from overstimulation, I get my energy from being alone and greatly enjoy solitude. I despise conflict; I avoid it and when possible, I run from it. I always have. More often than not, I will let personal calls ring through to voicemail unless it's a family member or very close friend. And while I can certainly be verbally articulate, I would much prefer to express myself through writing, art, and dress. I spend the vast majority of every day inside my own head: thinking, ruminating, creating, analyzing. I am a complete introvert.

I long for meaningful conversations with those to whom I am closest. It's not that I am not social; just selectively so. I adore people, though I have considerably more alliances than friends. I trust precious few. I crave authenticity in my interactions and while I'm outgoing, I much prefer listening to talking. I like to play my cards thoughtfully. Black is a subconscious means for me to put people off, in a way, to stay somewhat hidden, to hold on to secrets, to preserve the unknown. Call me old-fashioned, but I believe there is no sexier quality than to uphold an air of mystery, both in terms of self-disclosure and in terms of dress. Never tell all; never show all. It keeps people guessing.

Black has become my armor, because nobody interrupts a woman for directions or small talk (except for Wall Street platform guy) that appears to be more likely to cast a spell with her black umbrella than discuss a forecast for lightning.

Are you ready for this? There are just 13 days to go until we see some of the world's most beautiful women take to the VS runway for the lingerie brand's annual fashion show, and we can hardly stand the wait! While the casting news alone had kept us entertained in the weeks leading up to the big event, this week gave us the first look at a number of the Angels' runway looks (aka wings, wings and more wings!)

So, what can we expect from this year's show? To start, Adriana Lima and Alessandra Ambrosio, the brand's longest-reigning Angels, will make history in the brand's Dream Angels Fantasy Bras (that's bras, plural) valued at $2 million apiece. The Brazilian bombshells will walk side-by-side in the Exotic Traveler portion of the show-- other categories include Gilded Angels, Dream Girls, Fairy Tale, University of Pink and Angel Ball.

As for the gilded gals, both Candice Swanepoel and Lindsay Ellingson will take the stage adorned with giant golden wings and matching knee-high gladiator-style boots. "I love all the gold, I'm obsessed with gold because it matches my skin tone and my hair," Lindsay told us at her fitting. "I think it's gorgeous and I have to say it's my favorite look of all time."

Walking in the Dream Angels section will be all-American stunners Lily Aldridge and Karlie Kloss. In her behind-the-scenes interview with Hollywood Life, Lily reveals a first look at her outfit which feature large, black feathery wings, a white corset and black thigh-high stockings, while over at InStyle Karlie showed off her dragonfly-inspired look that was custom designed for her by famed wing designer Serkan Cura.

Meanwhile, Behati Prinsloo and Doutzen Kroes showed off their black lacy looks for The Coveteur and Harper's Bazaar respectively. Behati for one looks particularly stunning in a black and blue tulle skirt and corset look, while Doutzen's dramatic feathered train and giant wings are heavenly to say the least.

Finally, while she's not technically an Angel, Lily Donaldson will have the honor of wearing this year's main Swarovski piece. Featured in the Fairy Tale section, the British model will walk the runway in a purple-winged fairy costume, comprised of 150,000 Swarovski crystals, which Cura revealed to WWD weighs about 40 pounds. Now that's a workout!

Of course, we'll continue to keep a close eye on any developing news regarding the Victoria's Secret Fashion Show. In the meantime, head here for an updated list of the models confirmed for the show thus far and scroll down for a first look at the Angels's runway looks!

Alessandra Ambrosio (via Elle)

Candice Swanepoel (via E!)

Doutzen Kroes (via Harper's Bazaar)

Karlie Kloss (via InStyle)

Lily Donaldson (via WWD)

Lindsay Ellingson (via Modelinia)

Behati Prinsloo (via The Coveteur)

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In my new book, Finding Mr. Brightside, Juliette gets dragged out onto the dance floor by twerking dervish Heidi and instinctive robot buster-outer Abram. What does any of that even mean? You're about to find out.

Here are the 8 known dance floor archetypes (that I can currently think of):

1. Twerking dervish. Has a tendency to indiscriminately rub butt upon the fronts and/or backsides of others. Can often be heard encouraging fellow dancers to do the same/return the favor ("Get it!!!"), as is the case with lovable scene-stealer Heidi in Finding Mr. Brightside.

2. This-is-my-song claimer. Known to exhibit irrational possessiveness whenever familiar with a song. Doesn't matter if everyone else has heard it, they believe themselves to have been the first (well before the DJ). Can be heard shouting "This is my sooooong, you guys!" several times throughout the song's duration -- the half-hearted acknowledgment of others does not seem to deter additional claims.

3. Ironic snapper. The too-cool-for-Ke$ha type who hides enthusiasm for guilty musical pleasures underneath a veil of sarcastic dance gestures. Snaps fingers as a signal to others who are enjoying themselves that he/she could really take it or leave in the next 15 minutes.

4. Awkward giraffe swayer. A genuinely nice person of above-average height who wants to be involved in the fun but pretty much just stands there not bringing anything to the table. Moves shoulders in swaying motion every once in a while -- the only move in their arsenal -- in a way that says, "Hi, I'm still coming to terms with my body type."

5. Lonely love-song ruiner. Uses a variety of "I'm single but not by choice" distraction tactics whenever the DJ slows things down. Known to grab someone who they're obviously not dating (e.g., a fellow dancer who's much younger or older) in an attempt to beat judgmental onlookers to the punch with self-deprecating humor.

6. In-it-for-the-long-hauler. Someone who's been waiting for this night for-e-ver, and nothing is going to stop them from dancing it away, including visible sweat stains on dancing-friendly clothing. Disappointed if not the first to arrive and last to leave. Does not take water or alcohol breaks unless it's possible to keep dancing while doing so. Will dance with anyone -- does not care, just wants to dance, it's been so long.

7. Instinctive robot buster-outer. Has a knack for the absolute perfect time to bust out the robot. Usually inspires one or two others to follow suit, but they're rarely as naturally good at it. Not to be confused with the Ironic Snapper, who will use the robot as a sarcastic defense mechanism to remind everyone that, at the end of the day, we're all still adults here.

8. Electric Slide specialist. Will not stop requesting the you-know-what until it's played. Usually disappears shortly after song's conclusion, only to reemerge requesting the Cha Cha Slide when enough time has passed that they think they can get away with it. Impervious to the groans of others.

Am I missing anybody? Post your archetype in the Comments section before the Electric Slide specialist requests the Macarena!

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As if Christmas shopping needed to get more stressful, finding just the right gift for your girlfriend is kind of an imperative. That doesn't mean you need to go crazy, but it definitely requires some thought. If you aren't sure how to approach the situation (maybe the relationship is still young or maybe you don't feel like you have a knack for buying her gifts --it's ok, we've been there too!), the key is to not back yourself into a corner with a gift that's too presumptuous of her. Likewise, finding the right something isn't about spending as much money as you can reasonably afford -- it's about picking what's most likely to resonate with her, her interests and her style.

We've put together the following guide to help you discover what's out there -- you might actually be surprised at all your options. Whether you've been together for a while, or haven't but see yourself together for a while longer, here are the best Christmas gifts for girlfriends.

Stuhrling Watch

23K gold plating and a genuine leather double-wrap strap -- in red -- make this a stand out watch from Stuhrling. Not to mention that it's 76% off the original price.

Philosophy Moisturizer

For a nourishing skin treat, Philosophy's anti-oxidizing properties and gentle exfoliants will leave her skin feeling strong and supple. Also, not a bad last-minute gift.

Butter London Nail Polish

For a gift that's casual but fun, this "British Spice" themed nail polish set will do the trick. It's also small enough to be used as a stocking stuffer, should the need be.

Honeycomb Earrings

With their delicate detailing and golden coloring, these honeycomb earrings are a simple accessory that will look good on any girl. Plus they remind us of the warmer summer days ahead.

Bobbi Brown Cream Shadow

If she likes makeup, even just a little bit, she'll be into this creamy bronze shadow, which can be applied to her lookers, cheekbones or wherever she feels needs a little sparkle.

Malin+Goetz Starter Kit

For the traveller, this Malin+Goetz starter kit is a perfect addition to her overnight bag. It comes with four skin products (including cleanser and moisturizer) and hair care.

MeUndies

You don't have to spend a lot to give someone the gift of luxury underpants. Made from modal (spun from beech tree pulp!) and designed for maximum comfort, MeUndies are so soft you might want to get yourself a pair too.

Anne Klein Watch

A watch is a gift appropriate for all kinds of recipients -- including girlfriends, of course. We like this one for its unique dial and bling-like link bracelet.

Kate Spade Pebble Grain Clutch

An item that looks as good as it is useful. This leather pocket from Saturday is just large enough to fit all the essentials for a night out, yet small enough to fit into a larger bag if needed.

Aveda Botanical Kinetics

Winter can be hard on skin, but the truth is that a pampering bundle from Aveda needs no excuse. The coconut and jojoba cleanser will leave her skin soft while the camomile and lavender moisturizer will leave her smelling over-the-moon good.

Are you a girl reading this, trying to figure out what you actually want to ask for this year? We've all been there! It's hard enough to know what you want, let alone what everyone else wants. Unfortunately, this list is of no use when trying to figure out what to get the special men in your life -- it can be overwhelming to know what to get for dads, friends and significant others, but you'll totally get inspired by this list of Christmas gifts for guys.

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My son Max is the most confident person I've ever met in my life. This year, for his school Halloween party, he went as Draculaura (Dracula's daughter) from Monster High. Choosing to dress as a female character is nothing new for him. At only 7 years old, he's already gone in costume as Princess Leia and Padmé Amidala from Star Wars, Clawdeen Wolf from Monster High and Catwoman. When he was younger, he wasn't the least bit worried what his peers might think of his "girlie" choices, but as he's gotten older he's starting to worry.

Kids (and some adults) can be so cruel, and it's finally starting to take a toll on him. Being a boy in a "girls'" costume makes him an easy mark for bullies, and great gossip for the mommies. I know that I'm feeding him to the wolves when I let him go to a school function dressed as the opposite sex, but what's my other option? Tell him he can't be who he is because some dipshit little kids and their parents feel awkward around my son? Not gonna happen on my watch. Not while I'm his mommy.

Needless to say, he ended up having a blast at the Halloween party. Max's friends and their parents are amazing, and have always accepted him with with open arms, no matter how sparkly and fabulous he is. Yes, there were a few stares and whispers (mostly from parents), but as I've always tried to instill in my son, we can't worry about what everyone else thinks. My kid is polite, sensitive, loving, and has a heart of gold. He is perfect.

Is my son straight, gay, bi, trans or a metrosexual in the making? I have no clue, but I do know whatever God (or whatever higher power) has intended him to be, he is incredible. He is stronger and more secure with himself than most adults. I can't wait to see what beautiful costume he has in store for next year. I'm sure it will be fabulous.

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We've all seen it on the internet, in television and probably on the radio. Black Friday shoppers are made to look like selfish idiots. I just want to take a moment though to explain why Black Friday shoppers are not villains.

1. They boost the economy

Even though stores are cutting prices, the entire point of black friday is to help retailers move from "in the red" to "in the black" so they don't go "in the hole" by the end of the year. We all know that several retailers have already made massive profits in the year, but look at it this way: they are providing more people with more jobs this year. Yes, they may be making a minimum wage, but they are earning a portion of the profits and for some people they really need that money. In addition, with the money people save by shopping Black Friday deals, they can use it elsewhere to boost the economy.

2. They have a good time

With exception to Black Friday violence, for the most part I believe people really are enjoying themselves. Believe it or not, some people get a thrill out of sleeping in a tent outside of a store for a few days. They can tell a great story and have the opportunity to share an experience.

3. They are supporting small businesses

Everyone puts a lot of focus on the major corporations benefiting from Black Friday, but small businesses do as well. For example, as a small business owner myself, I am able to finish off the year by promoting deals on my blog. I enjoy finding deals and posting them for my readers. People will even send me personal requests and I look into them. So while the deals I am posting are typically from large retailers, people purchasing using the links on my blog are supporting my small business.

4. They aren't necessarily away from their family on Thanksgiving Day

Black Friday isn't just one day now. It's almost an entire month. And now it's online. Since I myself post deals for Black Friday and I also head out to the stores on Thanksgiving night and the next day, I can tell you that I personally have noticed that the deals online are just as good if not better. So if you don't like the idea of sleeping overnight outside of a store, just roll out of bed and visit the website of your favorite blogger and you can get the same deals in your pajamas.

5. They are frugal

A lot of the people I have talked to that get excited about Black Friday deals are frugal. They are good stewards of their money and prefer to get the best deals at the best time of year. They often are aware of which items have a lower price at this time of year and they are simply shopping to take advantage of the prices rather than participating in the hype.

So next time you hear someone talking about being a Black Friday shopping, don't stereotype! It's not all hype!

With the holiday season rapidly approaching, it's time to start thinking about what you're going to gift. Naturally, The Underwear Expert has an answer for that: underwear multipacks!

It's a great way to save this season, plus who can turn down these hot collections of underwear we've picked? Most brands have finely curated underwear packs, so you know you'll always be current and trendy. We rounded up the hottest this season, and the ones that will you keep you the warmest through winter. Go for basics with an upgraded twist from brands like Malebasics and Cocksox. Bjorn Borg and Jam have the best deals on underwear with fun, seasonal prints. The many teamm8 multipacks with amp up your underwear collection with bright colors and wicked designs.

For the rest of the story, and to shop the looks featured, head over to The Underwear Expert.

By Jillian Kramer

Sometimes it seems that mother-in-laws were put on the planet for the sole purpose of driving brides crazy. With the smallest of actions or phrases, they can turn level-headed women into raging lunatics in 60-seconds-flat. And sometimes, it seems impossible to bite your tongue. In those moments, you may let words slip that you wish you could take back.

"No matter how ill behaved she is, she is the mother of the man you love, and deserves respect for that reason," says relationship expert April Masini.

So before you spit out the following words without thinking, consider these more demure, peace-keeping alternatives:

"Why exactly do you think it's okay to drop over unannounced?"
It's time for your husband to step up to the plate when you want to spew these words. "Ask him to have his mom call before coming over to ask if it's a good time for her to stop by or not," Masini suggests. "When she does, tell her how great it is that she's calling first, and how much nicer the visit is when you can prepare for it!"

"You already raised your child. Don't tell me how to raise mine."
Feeling vulnerable? Welcome to the club that is motherhood. "Instead of talking to her in broad strokes, be specific," Masini advises. "Say, 'I know you want to spoil the kids with jellybeans and chocolates, but we're trying to limit their sugar. Would you be okay buying them books, instead? That would make things so awesome for us!' By giving her something to do that's different, you're not shutting her out -- you're just giving her direction."

"Did you seriously just insult my mashed potatoes? Have you tasted the ones you make?!"
"A champion doesn't throw down insults like she just did," says Masini. "That's the smell of fear. When she insults your potatoes, you know they're good. So tell her, 'I don't think I'll ever be able to make mashed potatoes like yours,' and savor the private joke in there."

"You do realize I married your son, no matter how much you like (and still talk about) his ex?"
It's time to change the subject. "Your mother-in-law is being rude," Masini says. "With any luck, your husband will jump in without prompting and tell her that what she's saying is disrespectful. Remember that her opinion of your husband's ex is less important than your husband's opinion of her. You can tell her, 'I'm sure glad my husband didn't like her as much as you do!'"

"No, you may not have my husband to yourself on his birthday!"
Your mother-in-law isn't showing your marriage the respect and importance it deserves. "You can actually do a little teaching by saying, 'The wife usually gets, at least, a birthday dinner with her husband!'" Masini suggests. "This is subtly reminding her that all wives get birthday dinners with their husbands. Being able to say this requires you to have a little distance from the emotional sting of her denial of your marriage."

"Your son is a grown man! Stop telling him what to do!"
Tempted to say this phrase? It may not be your MIL who has the problem, Masini warns. "She's not talking to you, [and] he's not bothered by what she's saying," she says. "When this type of comment really, really bothers you, consider that you may be trying to control the situation yourself, and you're seeing your own behavior in a mirror. Roll up your sleeves, you have work to do -- on yourself!"

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In September the world lost a truly exceptional person, Joan Rivers. She shared so many things with us. She didn't just do something -- she became it.

She was comedy, she was fashion, she was television. Joan Rivers was in one word: ENTERTAINMENT!!! She was the consummate pioneer in every endeavor she attempted.

I began to think about several people out there who do exceptional things on a daily basis like Joan and wanted to do something to highlight their lives, and that's how I On Exceptional Living came to be.

During this series I will feature the people that I feel are the true trailblazers of our era.

NIKKI HASKELL

The gorgeous brunette was born in Chicago and raised in Beverly Hills, California. Nikki Haskell's amazing ability to seize the moment has made her a true pioneer and an entrepreneur. She is a champion horseback rider, the inventor of the Star Cruncher exercise system, a bestselling author of the Star Diet, an accomplished artist, and a film producer. When Nikki moved to New York, there were no women on Wall Street, and she became one of the first five female stockbrokers in the world. After ten years on Wall Street, Nikki changed her focus to the entertainment industry, which led her to create one of the most successful cable shows of all time, The Nikki Haskell Show. The popularity and success of the show resulted in a trail-blazing article on the front page of The Wall Street Journal. The Nikki Haskell Show captured the glamour and excitement of the 80's, shooting 300 half-hour episodes from all over the world. Nikki is using the library of her extraordinary footage to create a talk reality show, Flashback to the Future, which will relive memorable nostalgic interviews of icons such as Liza Minnelli from The Cannes Film Festival, Joan Collins from France, and First Lady Imelda Marcos. Never seen before footage of Tony Curtis, Steve Rubell, Sophia Loren and James Mason. Flashback to the Future will take you back to the memorable days of the 80's. Nikki will re-interview the stars today in their homes, restaurants and yachts. Flashback to the Future captures Nikki Haskell's exceptional life, taking her face to face with the rich, the famous and the outrageous. Her fearless nature, positive attitude and unique sense of humor helped her through many challenging times. Never under estimate her, she is a force to be reckoned with.

Everyone knows Nikki knows everyone...now it's our turn to get to know Nikki.

MAVIS STAPLES

Mavis Staples' deep, sultry voice is a celebrated feature of American R&B and gospel music, and she is best known for hits such as "Respect Yourself" and "I'll Take You There." In addition to a decades-long career with both her family as the Staple Singers and as a solo act, Mavis Staples was notable civil rights activist, traveling with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and performing some of the movement's most powerful anthems. For a time, the Staple Singers dedicated themselves solely to writing such songs, and have since been inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and received the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award.

CINDY CRAWFORD

Cindy Crawford is an American supermodel whose success in modeling has brought her international acclaim and led to roles in television and film, as well as the opportunity to act as a spokesperson for various organizations.

Her fashionable furniture line, Cindy Crawford Home, has grown so successful that the multi-talented model now has the chance to give back to Chicago, the city that kick-started her career. Crawford has partnered with Art Van Furniture over the past 7 years to bring affordable style into the homes of thousands, but this year she has announced that she's taking on a new role: Art Van's Charity Challenge Ambassador. As part of an ambitious philanthropic mission, she will be featured in PSAs and raise funds for local charities in the region. Over last five years, the Challenge has donated more than $6 million in grants to 205 local charities and raised many millions more. On October 29, 2014, Crawford appeared at Art Van's A Shining Star Event in Chicago to accept her new position -- where IOnTheScene had the opportunity to sit down and catch up with Cindy (stay tuned for more).

ROBERT C. MERTON

Robert C. Merton is a Nobel laureate in economics and the School of Management Distinguished Professor of Finance at the MIT Sloan School of Management. His research has worldwide recognition and impact. He is perhaps most well-known for his role in developing the Black-Scholes-Merton model of continuous-time option pricing.

CATHARINE HAMILTON

Catharine Hamilton is a Texas native with a love of French art and culture that inspired the creation in 1998 of American Friends of Versailles, an organization dedicated to preserving the landmark's exquisite beauty, particularly through the restoration the Trois Fontaines Bosquet and the Pavillon Frais at Versailles. Catharine has been extensively involved in raising the millions needed to reinvigorate the palace gardens and protect the delicate history of the grounds and palace itself.

MARILYN HOFFMAN

Marilyn Hoffman is the woman you speak to when you are ready to upgrade to a $30 million mansion or an expansive Western ranch. Based in Dallas, Texas, Marilyn's non-franchised realty firm, Hoffman International Properties Inc., has listings just about anywhere in the world you'd like to live. Her success as a leading realtor of luxury properties is partially the result of her attention to the minute details and history of each estate and her impressive network of clients that she has carefully cultivated for over decades. She utilizes a "clients first" philosophy that keeps both buyers and sellers satisfied and keeps Marilyn a busy professional.

Check back in December for I On Exceptional Living's first feature about Nikki Haskell and her exciting new project, Flashback to the Future.

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"She's so veiny. Yuck."

This was the comment left on one of my pieces that ran in HuffPost 50 last week. The commenter was referring to a photo similar to the one above, where the veins in my hands and arms are pronounced. My stomach lurched a bit when I read it. It reminded me of the time in 11th grade when I caught two frenemies loudly opining about my physical flaws to my boyfriend. The HuffPost comment was a nasty thing to say, and a silly thing to say. But it was true.

I read a great piece in Medium recently, about hands as erotic objects. The author, Sarah Nicole Prickett, wrote that there is no Botox for hands; they're the one place on the body that is sure to reveal your age. So when the HuffPost commenter said "yuck," to my veins, she was really calling me old.

My veins wander and traverse each other, like a road map beneath my skin. They've always been that way, to an extent. Phlebotomists love me. But as I've grown older, and my skin has thinned, the veins have gotten more prominent. My kids tell me my hands weird them out. And sometimes I look at them and they weird me out. Mostly, they remind me that I'm aging.

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The charmer who left the comment in HuffPost 50 was a woman. Women tend to be far more critical of themselves and other women than men. We're bombarded by images that have the life and uniqueness photoshopped out of them, so we think we're inferior: we're "too" something or "not enough" something else. And one of the worst things, for a woman, is to be told that she looks "too old."

We often lose all perspective of what makes us attractive, until someone with sense points it out. When I showed my first set of boudoir photos to a former lover, he lingered over an overtly sexual one, all latex and curves. I was expecting him to comment on the shape of my ass, or on my provocative ensemble, but instead he said that he loved the veins in my arms. He thought they made me beautiful.

Since then I've tried to be more philosophical about my veins. My 52-year-old hands, after all, are not supposed to look like they did when I was 22. They're the hands of a woman who's forged her own path and finally, five decades in, has grown comfortable in her skin.

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Last weekend I did a photo shoot with a new, wildly talented photographer, Nick Holmes. When he sent me my digital file, I saw shot after shot of my hands. They're the focus of many of the photos. Since I don't usually show my face, the hands instantly give away my age.

This time, instead of wincing when I saw my veins, I thought they were part of what made the photos arresting. My hands, once merely delicate, now look strong and bold. They tell a story that the hands of a young woman don't. Seeing a 25-year-old in a photo that exudes sexuality is predictable. But seeing a 52-year-old woman in an overtly sexual photo -- that's compelling.

I don't know if Nick intended to capture the interplay of age and sexuality when he focused his lens on my hands. But his images express the ethos of my blog. They tell the world that sexual confidence is ageless.

Earlier on Huff/Post50:

When launching their lingerie company, Ampere, in 2012, co-founders Jiabei Chen and Yun Ah Lee wanted to change the way women think about and shop for intimate apparel. Now, as they look ahead at the second anniversary of the company, the fashion entrepreneurs are reflecting on some of major lessons they've learned along the way. They responded to my questions via email:

Q: What's the upcoming holiday season mean for your business? I imagine this is a busy time of year for you.

Ampere co-founders: Although people typically associate lingerie with Valentine's Day, we've definitely seen a trend towards gifting lingerie during the holidays. We also see a lot of women who are shopping for the perfect piece to go under a new holiday outfit or New Year's Eve dress.

The number one question we are asked when it comes to gifting lingerie is what size to order. With our Home Try-on program, you don't need to know the recipient's exact size (just an approximation). Order your best guess and we'll send multiple sizes for her to try on. Although we request our customers to return their unwanted sister sizes within 10 days, we're very flexible during the holidays as we know everyone wants to plan ahead but keep their gifts a surprise until the day of.

Q: Isn't lingerie something that's traditionally difficult to buy online, particularly for men who may not know all of the ins and outs?

Ampere co-founders: Yes, lingerie is traditionally very difficult to buy online. You never know how a particular piece will fit until you try it on in person. This can be especially daunting for men since they aren't usually as familiar with the ins and outs of lingerie. We actually created this handy "Gentlemen's Guide to Buying Lingerie." So, if you're a guy who wants to treat a special someone but feeling overwhelmed, we'd recommend you check it out!

Q: But then is lingerie something that only women in relationships are interested in buying?

Ampere co-founders: Absolutely not! Wearing beautiful yet comfortable lingerie changes your entire outlook no matter what your relationship status is. It helps you look better and feel better. Whether you're trying to close a big deal or going on a big date, wearing gorgeous lingerie is key!

Q: What business lessons have you gleaned from your prior lives in the corporate world?

Ampere co-founders: Jiabei was a corporate lawyer and Yun Ah was an investment banker before they started Ampere. In addition to being able to draft our own contracts and build our own financial models, we learned so much from our corporate jobs. The analytical, organizational and presentation skills we learned at our old jobs apply to nearly everything we do at Ampere. We did have to learn the ropes of the fashion industry from the ground up which was a challenging yet fun process.

Q: I noted that your company wasn't only founded by women, it seems to be run by women. Is there a competitive advantage you gain from having women at the steering wheel?

Ampere co-founders: It's not necessarily a competitive advantage to having women at the steering wheel, rather, it's evidence not only that times are changing but times have changed. The women on the Ampere team are incredibly bright, ambitious and courageous. If we hire a man, we would expect the same from him. There's still a long way to go in terms of gender equality in entrepreneurship, but we're optimistic that more and more women will be starting their own successful businesses in the future. We hope to be an inspiration to these women just as the women before us paved the path when it was much more difficult.

"Friends are the family you choose." - Jess C. Scott

Thank you for being there for me when I call you and need someone to just listen. It doesn't matter where we are in this world or in our lives, I know you will always pick up.

Thank you for always being my best supporter.

Thank you for not judging me for my sometimes poor decision-making skills.

Thank you for late-night conversations.

Thank you for remembering every inside joke we have ever created.

Thank you for the long drives and plane rides you have taken just to spend time with me.

Thank you for being brutally honest with me when I am being ridiculous.

Thank you for respecting my values and opinions, even if you disagree.

Thank you for loving my family like you love your own.

Thank you for bringing me into your family.

Thank you for pouring large glasses of wine.

Thank you for being brave enough to let me in and be vulnerable to me.

Thank you for fighting all of life's battles by my side.

Thank you for celebrating all of the exciting moments of my life with me. I can't imagine not having you in my wedding or by my side when I hold a little human in my arms that I magically created.

Thank you for ordering pizza with me at any time of night.

Thank you for forgiving me for every time I haven't been the best friend in the entire world.

Thank you for all that you've taught me.

Thank you for always making me feel like the crazy stories of my day are important.

Thank you for being there through all of the significant others I have mistakenly chosen over you in obvious moments of weakness.

Thank you for every gushy text you send me to encourage me when life is really crappy.

Thank you for every dorky, sentimental holiday and birthday gift you knew I would absolutely love.

Thank you for the moments of silence we share together, where words don't need to be said, but we know we are in it together.

Thank you for being the best wing-woman a girl could ever ask for.

Thank you for always being ready to bust out the dance moves with me.

Thank you for defending me.

Thank you for reminding me to stay true to myself.

Thank you for continuing to be true to yourself as well, because I think you rock.

Thank you for listening to my long stories as though you haven't already heard them a million times.

Thank you for always making time for me, no matter how far away you are.

Thank you for being strong when I am weak.

Thank you for texting me and keeping up with me more thoroughly than my significant others have.

Thank you for being the most significant of my others.

Thank you for sharing your closet with me.

Thank you for your sharing your secrets with me.

Thank you for sharing your life with me.

For more, check out my website at www.serendipityandcreativity.com

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An impressive new technology is putting a spin on nail art. In 15 minutes, the Tat'z Nail'z Image System can print any image, design or logo on artificial or natural nails.

Image via Tat'z Nail'z

Each Tat'z Nail'z System is pre-programmed with 3,000 designs and each design has 10 color options for a total of 30,000 pre-installed prints, patterns, and colors. The process of using Tat'z Nail'z is simple and takes just a few steps, beginning with the application of a base coat and pre-print lacquer to protect the nail's surface. Next, one finger is placed inside the machine, a design is chosen and printed and a top coat applied.

Image via Tat'z Nail'z

Eye-catching personalization is not new to the world of nail art. Nail art is rocking celebrity style and many women have been wearing intricately hand-drawn designs on nails for years. What is new is the ability to take a digital image and convert it into trendy nail art. As if the 30,000 pre-installed design options within the Tat'z Nail'z Image System were not enough, there is a built-in digital camera that can capture any desired image and spin it into a personalized expression in nail art.

By Lauren Kay for TheKnot.com

There are some things you just don't find out until you try on a wedding dress yourself.

1. Breakfast actually is the most important meal of the day.
Starting out "hangry" is like shopping suicide. You probably don't need to wolf down a burger and fries moments before you step into that slinky gown, but make sure you have something to eat before getting started. Trying on gowns is emotionally and physically draining (some dresses weigh twice as much as a puppy!). You may even sweat a little, so fuel up!

2. Choose your companions wisely.
Most bridal salons are happy to welcome you and a few guests (not your entire entourage). This is actually a good thing! There's only room for a couple extra bodies and all that tulle anyway, and you'll have fewer people weighing in on your decision. Its great to have trusted opinions, but too many and you'll be paralyzed with fear of making the wrong choice.

More from The Knot: Wedding Dress Shopping 101

3. Wear a touch more make up than usual.
Buying a fancy dress is not an everyday occurrence -- it's going to be a tricky decision no matter what. Not to mention the unflattering florescent lighting typical of most fitting rooms. Do yourself a favor and wear a touch more makeup than your usual look (we're talking some blush and black eyeliner) to your appointment. You'll look more like you will on your wedding day, which will ultimately make it easier to pull the trigger on a gown.

4. Be prepared to strip down.
Truth: A veritable stranger may catch glimpses of you naked. Most consultants will give you some privacy, but because dresses can be unwieldy or delicate they'll want to help you in and out of them. Wear undergarments that you don't mind seeing the light of day (we recommend light-color boy shorts and a strapless bra). If you're a modest-kind of girl, speak up from the start.

5. Trust your consultant.
She may be older than your Mom or still single, but she wouldn't be doing this if she wasn't totally qualified. Your consultant knows the dresses and sees hundreds of brides with varying body shapes try them on every day. Make sure you share your wants (lace, a-line, sleeves) but be open to her suggestions--you may end up with one of her picks when its all said and done.

6. A bridal 8 is not a J.Crew 8.
Don't panic. You do not need to enroll in Bridal Boot Camp -- wedding gown sizes are not the same as "street" clothes. If you wear an 8 in your favorite summer dress, there's a good chance you'll be wearing a 12 or 14 down the aisle. Focus on how great you feel in the dress, not the number on the tag.

7. Try on styles that aren't "you."
Even if you have your heart set on a mermaid lace gown, or think you can't wear silk, try on a variety of gowns. You're only going to do this once and you may surprise yourself by choosing something completely different than the pins on your inspiration board. And try the dress that your mother (or grandmother or mother-in-law-to-be) is just sure is "the one" -- she's been looking forward to this day too. She'll either see that you were right about the skirt swallowing you whole, or you may shock yourself by actually liking the dress -- it's a win-win.

More from The Knot: 10 Things to Do After You Purchase Your Wedding Dress

8. Some "other" bride might be wearing "your" dress.
Let's get real: you're not the only bride planning a June wedding, so its entirely possible someone else will be trying on "your" dream dress. Or, you may see someone wearing an illusion back gown that you hadn't considered and want to try it on RIGHT. THIS. MINUTE. Play nice -- share the mirrors, pedestals and even the gowns.

9. Don't just stand there, move around!
Sure, there will be moments when you're standing still at your wedding (like when you say I do). But you'll also be sitting and mingling and getting down on the dance floor. If you think the dress is a serious contender, take a walk around the salon, sit down, practice your "SHOUT!" technique. You may feel foolish in the moment, but you'll be glad you gave the gown a test drive when you're comfortable all day and night.

10. You may not cry.
Maybe emotion will overcome you. Maybe your Mom will get choked up too. But it's totally okay if no one cries. It doesn't mean you picked the wrong gown (even if you're the first to tear at a sappy commercial). Every bride is different so don't put pressure on yourself to react a certain way. Also, your consultant may not pop a bottle of champagne (some can't due to liquor laws) like you see on TV. Take your shopping companions out for a celebratory drink instead -- you all deserve it!

Bonus: When you've found the dress, most salons require you to sign a contract and put down a deposit on the spot. You may have to commit to things like a size and any customizations (adding sleeves, dropping the waist) you and your consultant discussed. Ask about alteration costs, which can add up. And ask if any discounts are available -- you're not going to get half off, but there may be an upcoming trunk show or a special rate for purchasing your bridesmaids dresses at the same salon. Sometimes you'll get lucky and they'll throw in a veil -- it never hurts to ask!

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Hot new wedding dress trends

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As the colder months settle in and nature takes on different colors, the change in season inspires a change in our colors, too. Fashion trends begin to celebrate warm, earthy tones and hair color trends transition to golden hues and autumn browns.

The bright tones we loved during the summer suddenly seem to contrast with fall and winter taking hold. But then you flash back to that time you went too dark and start to doubt if you should consider other colors. Have no fear, because with the right color you'll have hair that will complement the naturally paler skin tone we all get during the fall and winter.

Here are some essential tips to help you make the transition from summer to fall.

• Consider your routine. Do you have a busy schedule or plans to be out of town a lot during the holiday season? Think about your daily routine as you consider hair color and cuts. If you don't have much time to keep up with appointments every four to six weeks, talk with your stylist about colors and cuts that will grow out well for you.

• Bring pictures to the appointment. A picture really is worth a thousand words. But don't just bring one. Select several pictures that depict a similar hair color trend to give your stylist a good idea of what you're hoping for. The same goes for haircut if you want to switch that up too. Try to provide clear communication to your stylist about what you like in each picture. And keep in mind that your stylist might recommend various colors or tones to replicate the look in the most complementary way for your skin tone.

• Block out time. Depending on how big of a transition you want to make, you may need several hours or several appointments to achieve the desired look. Subtle changes may be done in one appointment, but bigger changes will take more time. You don't want to rush things in an effort to avoid damaging your hair. Be patient, good hair is worth the wait.

• Tender love and care. Help your hair recover from sun damage endured during summer months with a deep conditioning product. Your stylist can recommend the right conditioner for your hair type. Regular conditioning will help prevent and repair hair damage from coloring, styling and environmental elements.

Transitioning from summer hair to fall is fun and stress-free when you're prepared. Think about your routine before you settle on a new fall look, find great pictures that exemplify the look, make time for the transition, and take care of your hair so it remains healthy every step of the way.

Who doesn't love that fresh feeling of a new look? By trusting your stylist and communicating your desires clearly, you will get the results you're dreaming of.

This was provided by On-Site Studio Hair Salon in Orlando, Fl.

"When you teach kindness, love and empathy, there is no room for hate."
Kaitlin Roig-DeBellis

On December 14, 2012, teacher Kaitlin Roig-DeBellis's elementary school, Sandy Hook, endured one of the worst tragedies in U.S. history. Kaitlin's quick thinking at Sandy Hook saved 15 lives when, after hearing gunshots, she hurried her class of first-graders into a tiny bathroom keeping them safe until the police arrived. Kaitlin told me she never thought any of them would get out alive.

A year later, out of unthinkable tragedy, inspired by the kindness of others and in support of her first-graders, Kaitlin founded Classes 4 Classes an organization who's mission is to trump the hate that inspires such violence. Classes 4 Classes actively engages students and teachers in learning a social curriculum that encourages the development of students' emotional intellect, a key to forming healthy relationships. Kaitlin would like to see every student learn about compassion, caring, kindness, empathy and consideration -- lessons she believes should be included in all children's education.

I reached out to Kaitlin after meeting her at an event in New York and asked her if there was a teacher she worked with that supported Classes 4 Classes she would like to nominate for a GLAM4GOOD experience. GLAM4GOOD is my organization that harnesses the positive aspects of fashion and beauty to celebrate courage, perseverance and greatness. GLAM4GOOD is more than just a makeover -- often it's about honoring and acknowledging everyday heroism, bravery and compassion with fashion. Without missing a beat Kaitlin said, "I nominate Kristi MacCann because I am in awe of Kristi's selflessness, her devotion to her family, her ability to only see the positive and to not focus on the negative. This is why I can't think of anyone more deserving of being honored by Glam4Good. I have never seen a side of her that wasn't good."

"Kristi McCann is the kind of teacher that every school needs." says Marlene Roberts the Principal of Geraldine W. Johnson School, the elementary school in Bridgeport, Connecticut where Kristi teaches. "She is sweet, caring and understanding of especially challenging students. Her students adore her and even after they move on to the next grade if they have a rough time in school or their personal lives they know they can go back to seek her encouragement, attention and guidance."

Kristi McCann, like Kaitlin, turned great personal tragedy in her own life into a learning experience to help others after her brother was diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia. Kristi donated her bone marrow to her brother and with the support of her Principal and school, shared that journey with her class. Kristi wanted her students to feel that they could share things with her too. "I thought to myself that this would be a great opportunity to show my class how life isn't always perfect and how sometimes sharing your experiences with others can be helpful." she said. "I could've kept it to myself, but I took a chance and the end result was life changing. They were my rock."

Soon after, Kristi started implementing caring and compassion lessons in her class to help teach ways of dealing with difficult situations in a positive way. "Classes 4 Classes curriculum helps teach my kids to find new ways of showing care towards others and themselves. My kids can learn social skills and different ways of turning potentially negative situations into positive ones." Kristi believes strongly that these skills cannot be overlooked, "We must teach kids to be kind and compassionate learners through different daily activities. Sometimes when we are having a challenging days, the kids will say, "Mrs. McCann I think we need to do a Classes 4 Classes lesson." she says. As the school year went on and Kristi continued to teach these lessons on compassion she noticed her class began thinking on their feet about their choices and constantly saying kind things to each other. "It's been inspiring to watch the progression these kids have made."

With the incredible support of Geraldine W. Johnson School's Principal Marlene Roberts and fellow teacher Emily Cicale, Kaitlin and I were able to surprise Kristi and her entire class. As Emily covered teaching Kristi's class, we led the very excited Kristi into a makeover room we set up in the school. My GLAM4GOOD team focused on giving Kristi the pampering she deserves; A beautiful hair cut and style from Suave Professionals, makeup tips and application from Nicole Bryl and a stunning new work wardrobe thanks to Tommy Hilfiger. As Kristi was being pampered and the class was at recess, we set up a class party to surprise everyone! When the kids and Kristi walked back into class not only was their a surprise party set up with decorations, food and goody bags, but thanks to Tommy Hilfiger, warm winter coats, scarves, gloves and hats to honor the kids who have all been so supportive of their teacher. Everyone had a GLAM4GOOD experience. Watch the heart warming video and check out the pictures in the album to see our incredible day together.

I asked Kristi what she wanted her legacy as a teacher to be. "You must have love, trust, compassion, and kindness...and then you can teach anything," she tells me. "My favorite teachers were this way and as an educator now, I understand why they were so successful when educating me."

Kaitlin Roig-DeBellis and I dedicate this video and post to the memory of Kristi's incredible bother, Robert Migne, who recently passed away.

Classes 4 Classes Gives GLAM4GOOD their Eight Tips For Teaching Kindness And Compassion.

1. KINDNESS BREEDS KINDNESS: Life is full of choices. No matter who you are, if you choose to focus on love, kindness, empathy, and compassion, then you need to make a point to embody these things in all you do and if you're a teacher, to teach theses lessons to your students. .

2. WE DO NOT STAND ALONE: In life we are all connected. We must actively experience giving to others, to show ourselves and our students the impact of helping someone else. It ultimately can change our social climate.

3. KINDNESS MATTERS: At Classes 4 Classes we recommend the following: 'Keep a "caught being kind" jar and fill it throughout the week with things you observe. At the end of each week choose a few to TRY YOURSELF post.' ( Imagine, if we each lived every day to record the ways we were kind to others-)

4. PAIN AND HARDSHIP ARE UNIVERSAL: The answer lies in how you choose to react. It is your choice alone. You can choose to react with anger, resentment and hate, or, you can choose to react with love, empathy and compassion.

5. WE ARE DIFFERENT AND THE SAME: When it comes down to it, teaching students/individuals a social curriculum, is making sure that they are socially aware. Aware of what makes us different, and of what unites us as one, and being accepting of both.

6. WE HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE POSITIVE SOCIAL CHANGE: We teach that change happens not by talking about kindness and empathy but by living it. This encourages the development of emotional intellect, which is key to forming healthy relationships. We must work to create the change in our society.

These "tricks" are really not tricks at all. My grandmother and her neighbors all gathered beauty supplies from their local farmers market long before it was trendy to do so. They picked fruit from their gardens and used it as masks and creams. Doctors would prescribe various teas as remedies. And worried mothers would keep cinnamon and garlic nearby for sick children. Bosnia healed itself with the stickiness of honey, the crunch of dried herbs and the slipperiness of oils.

Twenty-two years ago, I flew across the Atlantic and away from my grandmother. I left her garden filled with fruit, oils and honey and entered a world filled with chemicals and formulated creams -- where toothpaste and mayonnaise were regarded as home remedies. As a young child, I remember returning to my grandmother's arms and back to her lush garden. Each day, I watched her refill her medicine cabinet with things I had only seen used as food in America. Her face would turn from red to green to purple to yellow as she sliced fruits of the season and rubbed them into her skin. With each beauty remedy, she morphed from being my familiar grandmother into a strange magician. Before my grandmother left her garden forever and joined the rich soil, she gave me her book of magic.

Now, I am giving it to you.

These products are nature's healing elements. They can be used to clean, brighten, tighten, soothe, replenish and hydrate our skin and hair. This list reflects the capabilities and best way to use each product. Enjoy!

Olive oil - a powerful moisturizing and cleansing product for your hair and skin. Use it as a hot oil treatment by heating some oil and massaging it into your hair. Keep it in for at least an hour for shiny moisturized hair. You can also use it as a facial cleansing oil by putting a small amount onto a cotton swab and rubbing off any dirt or make-up.

Grapes - a lot of water is packed in a single grape. Slice one in half and use it as a natural moisturizer. Simply rub it onto your face and wash it off after ten minutes.

Tomatoes - a miracle food that can brighten and soothe the skin. It clears acne, deeply cleans pores, fights premature aging and soothes sunburns. No need to buy cleansers or masks that use tomatoes. Just puree a tomato and apply it to your skin for fifteen minutes.

Lemons - a natural toner and antibacterial agent. Lemons can be used to brighten and tighten the skin simply by using a cotton ball and a few drops of lemon juice. Squeeze it into your hair and watch it lighten in the sun.

Avocados - a fruit that is packed with minerals and vitamins. It not only is good for you to eat, but is a great mask as well. It is suitable for all skin types and help to nourish and hydrate the skin. Just scoop out the avocado from its skin and apply it onto your face for fifteen minutes. Wash it away with warm water and feel your skin become clean and soft.

Apple cider vinegar - an acidic natural toner that helps prevent acne and skin infections. It's best to use organic apple cider vinegar by applying some to a cotton ball and wiping it onto your face. At the same time, use a water soaked cotton ball and wipe over the areas you just cleaned with apple cider vinegar. This helps to remove excess vinegar. Afterwards, your skin will be thankful for its deep cleanse.

Raw honey - a powerful natural medicine that can be used both for your hair and skin. Local and raw honey is great to help with allergies, because it exposes the body to local pollen. It also has strong anti-bacterial properties that are good for our bodies both inside and out. Combine with a pureed banana and natural oils such as coconut oil for a great hair mask. Or, spread a thick layer onto your face to fight acne and improve the tone and softness of the skin.

Raw clay - a deep cleansing element for the skin. Clay makes a great face mask for extracting any unwanted dirt or oil. There's no need to buy fancy clay masks, when you can find pure powdered clay at several health stores. Combine a couple of tablespoons of clay with a little bit of water and a teaspoon of yogurt. The yogurt is a naturally thick product that helps enhance the power of clay. Rub the mixture evenly onto your face and leave it on until it is all dry. Once you wash it off, use some moisturizer and enjoy your glowing skin.

Egg yolk - a protein rich product that helps to relieve thirsty hair and restore its shine. Adding some olive oil to a whisked egg yolk. Let the mixture soak into your hair for at least an hour. Wash it out and be amazed with your new silky and shiny hair.

Chamomile tea - a daisy-like flower that is more than just a tea. It is a herbal medicine that can be used for anxiety, stress, headaches, insomnia. In addition, it can be used to alleviate swollen eyes. Seep two teabag of chamomile tea and then let them cool completely. Lie down and place the teabags over your eyes for a calming and soothing effect.

Hosting a gathering with family or friends for Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas or New Years? If you would like to add a fun element of surprise to your soiree, check out these party enhancers by TOPS Malibu! The unique items include "suprize balls" and cornucopia cones filled with trinkets and goodies, sparklers, treasure fortune candles and more.

TOPS Malibu has created party favors for the Academy Awards, The Grammys, DreamWorks, Disney, Imagine Entertainment and even a Presidential Inauguration! They offer many unique items to choose from for your event. They include Sparklers in the shapes of numbers and letters, Surprize Balls that unwind to reveal vintage keepsakes, Conversation Games to inspire connection, Wish Capsules to hide a secret or keep a promise, and more. The company will also personalize and create custom products for a special event.

I discovered these amazing finds last year when shopping for some Thanksgiving table items at Bountiful, a bric-a-brac shop located on the hip and stylish street of Abbot Kinney Boulevard in Venice (California). I purchased the Thanksgiving cornucopia there to share with my guests as an after dinner activity. After enjoying a big Thanksgiving dinner, we all gathered in the living room to open the cornucopia. Each guest (ranging in age from three through 75) passed it around and selected a "surprize" to share with the group. This was so much fun that I am going to make it a yearly ritual! Read on for more details and see my favorite entertainment picks for each holiday from the TOPS Malibu collection:

Thanksgiving: The Surprize Cornucopia
Traditionally, a cornucopia is a large horn-shaped container overflowing with flowers and produce, to symbolize abundance and nourishment. These are perfect to bring to a Thanksgiving dinner or to have at your own. The Cornucopia Cones are available in four different sizes, 32" Grande, 17", 8", and a mini. Each contains Surprize Balls and many other themed items. They are also refillable so you can always reuse and customize the treats.

17" Surprize Cornucopia Thanksgiving, $21

Deluxe Surprize Ball Crackers are also fun to put on the Thanksgiving Table.

Deluxe Surprize Ball Thanksgiving Cracker, $17.90. Includes 12 prizes each.

Hanukkah: A gift envelope to open each day of Hanukkah.

Hanukkah Gift Envelope, $11.00

Eight envelopes may include a wish capsule, good fortune, gem, candy, toy, charm, pendant, vintage miniature, and more.

Inside the Hanukkah Gift Envelope

Christmas: Deluxe Surprize Ball Holiday Ornaments
Vintage holiday-inspired treasures are tucked carefully within layers of colorful crepe paper--unwind to reveal and celebrate!

Deluxe Surprize Ball Holiday Ornament, $18.00 Contains 12 prizes.

These mini Surprize Holiday gift boxes make great stocking stuffers!

3" mini Surprize Holiday Gift Box, $10. 6 prizes included.

New Years Eve: Sparklers, Confetti and Happy New Year Surprize Balls

Milestone Sparklers 2015 - 4 PCS, $15.50

The Confetti Fountain contains gold and silver metallic butterflies, hearts, stars and streamers. Compressed air shoots confetti 15 ft. into the air!

Confetti Fountain in white, gold and silver, $11.50.

Deluxe Surprize Ball New Years Black, $17.00.

Deluxe Surprize Ball Party Girl, 18.00. Contains 12 prizes.

Here's a look at what's inside a Surprize Ball! Surprises inside vary by style & may include: vintage-inspired toy, keepsake, charm, gem, sweets, confetti popper, fortune, temporary tattoo, quote & more.

For more information:
TOPS Malibu
Website: topsmalibu.com
Email: sales@topsmalibu.com
Phone: 808-828-0071

Bountiful
Address: 1335 Abbot Kinney Boulevard, Venice, California, 90291
Website: bountifulhome.com

Recently, at the Museum of Modern Art with my niece, I found something unexpected blocking my favorite Van Gogh: a young woman standing with her back six inches away from the canvas, taking a "selfie." As we strolled around the galleries, I spotted more of them. Selfies in front of the Jackson Pollack. Selfies in front of Monet's Water Lilies. Selfies in front of Campbell's Soup Cans. Like most technology-driven social phenomena, museum selfies seemed to have mushroomed overnight.

Until recently, the only digital annoyance I remember having to contend with in art museums was other visitors photographing the art at close range. Many museums allow non-flash photography, and it's true that if a lot of people are taking pictures it can obstruct others' view of the painting. Still, why shouldn't someone be able to photograph a work of art they love -- in order to enjoy and remember their museum experience later? Obsessive photo-taking might be somewhat self-centered in that there is no consideration about how it is impinging on the sight lines of others around them. On the other hand, the desire to capture the beautiful images of the art makes it ultimately a forgivable practice.

However, the narcissistic knee-jerk act of the museum selfie is in a whole other category. Now, not only can't we see the art because someone is standing right in front of it, we are forced to look at the selfie subject(s) instead of the art. The art is now the background to the selfie-taker--as if it were wallpaper, or the view from the Empire State Building. The implication is that the work of art is secondary in importance to the person in front of it. Obviously it's your choice if you want to have Van Gogh's The Starry Night as your own personal backdrop (although I myself do not have that kind of hubris). The problem is that you are changing the art experience of those around you. Even when selfie-takers are not completely obscuring the art, it's psychologically impossible to ignore it when someone is making themselves the subject; it's hard to look past them at the painting. It is just like trying not to listen to someone talking on his cell on the train.

It's difficult to say which is worse: The fact that we seem to need to document every moment of our existence or the need to put ourselves at the center of everything. (The selfie has become such a part of our culture that it was even the title of a TV show on ABC.) Because digital photos are free and easily deletable images we are in the habit of taking them without much thought. In museums, we sense we are having an important experience. We see beautiful art. We are moved, excited. The contemporary conditioned response to this emotion is to whip out the camera. And it is also highly contagious behavior. Once you see someone else doing it, you figure: Wait, maybe this would make a cool picture--me in front of a famous painting. This would be great on Instagram.

It's pretty hard to fight the sweeping tide of cellphone selfie-taking per se. Besides, selfies are not all bad. In the old days when you traveled to Paris, you would have to ask a passerby to take a photo of your and your friend in front of the Eiffel Tower. Now you can just take it yourself. Isn't this convenience an improvement? I have also seen some wonderful museum selfie photos that are a playful or ironic statement on the art: for example, a picture of person standing to the side of the painting imitating the pose of the subject in the painting, or a photo where it looks as if the person depicted in the painting is actually holding the phone. This kind of art riffing--which some people might find offensive--demonstrates a creativity I can't really object to.

What I will object to is the "selfie stick," a device for extending the cellphone an additional arm's-length away. Even though I caught many people taking selfies in the museum, thank god I did not see anyone using one of these relatively new gadgets. (Is it just me, or does the term "selfie stick" sound pornographic?) The sticks are already in wide use in Asia, which is a sign they will probably be trending here very soon. What these accessories will mean in museums, of course, is an even more hindered view of the art, as using the stick allows for more people to fit into a group selfie-portrait.

So there I was, at MOMA with my niece, frowning inwardly and eschewing the whole self-involved, self-aggrandizing selfie trend. Until - er... guess what? My niece suddenly whipped out her iPhone to snap a selfie of us standing in front of a Gauguin. Did I resist? Did I take a stand against the decline of respect for great art? Or did I lean my head happily against my niece's, open my eyes wide and smile gaily?

Like I said, these technology things are contagious.

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